Members Krantz Posted June 30, 2016 Members Report Share Posted June 30, 2016 I lost my fiancé 1 month ago from a sudden heart attack. We were supposed to get married in September and our wedding planning was all complete. 6 years ago I lost my first husband from a rare bone cancer. I was with him for 7 years and was diagnosed after 6 years being together. He proposed to me after his second round of treatments then passed away 1 year later. We were planning a wedding in October of 2010 (again all the planning was done) but since the cancer came back in his heart, we had a quick ceremony at our church then planned on having our actual wedding as a renewing our vows. I'm only 30 years old and I cannot believe I'm experiencing my second lost. I feel like I'm cursed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members claribassist13 Posted July 1, 2016 Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2016 Not cursed. Maybe you just happen to stumble across those who need your help. That is never a bad thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Krantz Posted July 2, 2016 Author Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2016 Thank you. I've heard that from others. I just find it hard to believe since you fallen in love and planned a future with them then suddenly your hopes and dreams vanish. I feel like it's a slap in the face by saying "nope!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted July 8, 2016 Moderators Report Share Posted July 8, 2016 When I lost my husband, I think I looked for answers to the "why" where there were none. Eventually I quit asking "why" and focused on what do I do now. That is going to look different to all of us as we learn to process and adjust to this life changing occurrence. It's taken me more time than I care to say, but I've tried to make my life what I want it to be, in spite of the absence of the person I'd hoped to grow old with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Krantz Posted July 9, 2016 Author Members Report Share Posted July 9, 2016 Especially when your loved one passed away so suddenly then all your hopes and dreams vanish at a blink of an eye. I'm still traumatized of the day of his day. I'm having a hard time trying to think of the good memories of him, but I keep picturing the day of his death.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jeff In Denver Posted July 9, 2016 Members Report Share Posted July 9, 2016 5 hours ago, Krantz said: Especially when your loved one passed away so suddenly then all your hopes and dreams vanish at a blink of an eye. I'm still traumatized of the day of his day. I'm having a hard time trying to think of the good memories of him, but I keep picturing the day of his death.. Well said. I think that's fairly normal to remember only the worst moments. In time, they say, that should balance out. I don't know if this helps: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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