my son

[George111]

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[Mermaid Tears]

Dear Komo.....I read your post this morning...I am so sorry you lost your SONshine boy...I lost my boy, John David in 2012...he was 42.....

   It doesn't matter if our child was 2 hours old...stillborn....10 years old...or 50 years old....they are still our child...this is the kind of grief that one does not 'get over' it....or run around it...or jump over it....you simply learn to 'go through it'....none of us on this site are professional counselors...all we are is a group of parents that come here to join our broken hearts  and help each other.

   I found this site one night when I was looking something else up on the internet...and feel I was guided here...my human boat was going down...down...down....and there were parents on this site that threw me a life jacket to keep me afloat...

    Many parents have been on this site for years....I call them our 'spirit guides'....they are farther along the grief journey and they wave to us...and let us know....we can survive this.

    This kind of grief is dark...heavy....exhausting...and we tell all parents to 'self care'....this kind of grief can cause many physical and mental issues.

     We don't have any answers....but we do have hearts and hands to reach out to you and yours....no one can really understand this sorrow...until you have lost a child.

    I found out that I wasn't crazy....I was simply in deep mourning.

Please go to the site called..'Loss of Adult Child'....there are many active parents on that site...and they will reach out to you with caring and consideration....most important...they know what you are going through. It doesn't matter how old your child is...we are all on the same page.

     Wishing you peace.

[George111]

Thanks for the help

[Mydeepestthoughts2]

This message is to convey my deepest sympathy for you, and your family at this time of great grief. The lost of a family member, and especially a child is a traumatic event, that shakes us to the core. I am participating in a volunteer work, and reaching out to loved ones who are suffering thru this lost, and providing an upbuilding bible message of hope.

A scripture that brings comfort, is found at Rev 21:3,4 which reads " The tent of God is with mankind, and he will reside with them, and they will be his people. And God himself will be with them. 4: And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away." Since death is all around us today, so we can appreciate that this is a future hope, and promise. But can this really take place? Is it really possible, that in the future your child, and many others will be brought back to life?? Is this a mere fantasy?

Note what verse 5 reads "Also he says: “Write, for these words are faithful* and true."

If you would like to hear more good news about the future, please inquire of Jehovah's Witnesses the next time they visit, or visit our website www.jw.org where you will find many more encouraging bible truths, that can ease your pain, and grief and provide a solid hope for the future.

http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/dead-live-again-tract/dead-live-again/

My condolences.