Widowed parent talking terribly about parent that passed

[ibarnard]

I am grieving so badly over the loss of my dad. I don't know how to handle this pain. The pain from his death is pain enough. It's pain I've never experienced or felt before ever. It is so intense it consumes me. Do any of you have a parent that was married for a very long time and talks badly about the other parent that passed constantly and says to save your tears when you cry???? How can a so called loving spouse do this? Why? It hurts so bad to hear the treacherous things. Don't understand it I don't I don't I don't this hurts so bad......