Members tcsherrod Posted July 29, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 29, 2008 In 2005, my step dad died after a 6 month bout with esophegal cancer. My mother's grieving process has been lengthy. My sister and I are preparing to confront her and plea for her to get some help. She refuses to attend grief support groups (because she doesn't want to hear people whine and cry about their loss although she will), she didn't like anti-depressants because they gave her diarreah, made her constipated, sleepy...etc. Since Dad died, she's bought a house and 6 acres which she has trouble managing, she has been on a 2 trips to Cancun (her and dad never travelled abroad), she's getting things more technologically advanced (cell phones, internet, satelite television) and is constantly calling tech support and wasting money because she can't figure out how to operate them. Up until recently, she never had central heat and air...It's new to her. We never had it growing up at the old house. The unit is running fine, but she has the repair man come out because she thinks it's broke. I know its 'operator error' but you can't tell her she's wrong and wasting her money because she knows everything and won't be told any differently.She's mixing concoctions in order to save money (like putting mouthwash in liquid soap to make it 'antibacterial') and I dare not say what she told me she used Clorox Wipes for! Her clean laundry smells soured, but she can't smell it (and she's very sensitive to smells).She's not even 62 yet and is going through the money Dad left her like sand. My sis and I are afraid she will have nothing left go retire on. She is spending alot of time with her brothers and sister too. Dad wasn't a real fan of this when he was alive. He was very conservative. They are very free spirited and careless with finances. Her siblings have been at the very root of every bad finacial decision she's made since Dad's death.My mother has alway been a bit scattered, but now I am fearing for her safety and sanity. My sister won't leave her children with mom alone because mom acts nervous around them. My daughter is a teen and I chose not to let her spend time this summer because my mom has lashed out at her about stupid petty things (like the eggs weren't cut to her specifications and what side of the bed to sleep on).Mom's best friend sees this too. My sister talked about this with her extensively. Her siblings don't. They thing she's all fine and having the time of her life blowing money and taking trips. They don't see that she's fixing to retire with nothing or how she is at home or how many repair man types have taken her money and ran.HELP...WHAT AM I SUPPOSE TO DO? She's not in the best of health physically or mentally. Any advise is greatly appreciated.Teresa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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