Members Jeff's Mom Posted September 25, 2013 Members Report Share Posted September 25, 2013 I normally post on the Loss of Adult Child site. However, I am in need of some advice. Some of you may be aware that my husband is suffering from colon cancer and undergoing chemo. Lately I am finding myself withdrawing completely. In truth...I am avoiding a lot of things. Mostly people. I try to keep as busy as I can around my home and yard. I love to garden and working in my yard gives me a sense of peace. Lately I am finding that people are walking up to me that normally never really have shown interest and ask me the most personal questions. It infuriates me. Case in point...yesterday I managed to clean out two garden sheds that I had been meaning to organize for a year now. It felt good to get out and accomplish the deed. I threw a ton of stuff into the garbage at the side of our property and today I found out it sent a wave of gossip around that I am getting ready to move. This afternoon as I was very contentedly I might add working in my front yard I looked up to see a woman that has not bothered with me for three years since my son died standing staring at me. She walked over and told me her feet hurt and could she sit down for a few minutes on our deck. I knew something was up but I sat with her for a little bit until she came out with it. Were we thinking of selling? She had heard of his brush with a bad chemo treatment a couple of weeks ago. She then turned to me as she left and told me she did not know how I could sleep at night with all that I had to worry about. I crashed. I was having a decent afternoon until then. How did you handle people that made you feel worse then you already are? Any advice would be very much appreciated. Thanks. Kate Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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