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jeninma

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I just lost my Dad to ALS. He was 86 and was not diagnosed until far too late. I am guilty for not spending enough time with him when he was alive, for not taking his symptoms as seriously, for not insisting that I do things for him, for not persuading him to eat better...basically for everything. I feel awful also because we argued two days before he died. I was able to tell him that I love him during the weeks before he died and I am thankful for that but I cannot release the feelings of guilt and the feelings that I should have done more.

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Lostwithoutmum

So sorry for your loss...

I know it is not easy to shake this feeling of guilt, I am still struggling with what if's 4 months and a half after losing mum, who means the world to me..

I do feel however that our parents know how much we love them, even when we don't have the chance to express it as perfectly as they deserve .

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That is a normal feeling. I feel guilty too but you must not make yourself feel bad. Your dad is still with you and always will be. They have found peace on a level we cannot experience. It's tough but you had your dad for a long time and concentrate on the memories you have with him. I lost my dad and he was in his fifties and it was sudden. They don't know yet why he died we will find out but I was guilty thinking I could have done something and that will eat you up inside if you let it. Keep well and remember that he is not gone, he is around looking after you.

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