Members randibear Posted April 19, 2008 Members Report Share Posted April 19, 2008 I am desperate and in need of advice. My mother is dying and is on oxygen, feeding tube and morphine. She has congestive heart failure, pneumonia, and her lungs are full of blood clots.She fell in January and broke her arm. She got mrsa, systemic yeast, pneumonia, you name it, in the hospital. She has been hospitalized 3-4 times since then.My sisters called in March and said she was dying so I went home. I stayed several weeks with her in the nursing home where she returned from the hospital because she improved. She was lucid and looked good.She deteriorated after I left and 2 weeks ago they called again and said come home. I said I was comfortable with my decision to stay in Texas and had good memories of mom. I went home at Christmas for a month and always stayed for several months over the summer.Mom is still holding on but my sisters called Monday and said she was dying again. My husband and I agreed that we would drive up for the funeral. Well it's been a week and she still is holding on.I can live with my decision to remain here in Texas and I want to remember Mom as I last saw her, not hooked up to machines and on morphine.My one sister called and really bawled me out for not coming home. She asked what was wrong with me, what kind of person was I, I was going to feel quilty for the rest of my life. Then she started saying it was all my husband's fault and I should tell him off. She became very abusive so i told her I had to go and hung up.My other family members accept my decision and say it's up to me, but they don't understand it.I talked to mom daily long distance and she often told me that she would go for weeks without anybody coming by or calling. So I don't feel they should be throwing stones at me.I'm comfortable with my decision and know I saw mom as often as I could and talked to her every day.How can I deal with this? My husband is getting furious with my family. I really need some help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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