Members Bud Posted September 30 Members Report Share Posted September 30 It's been 5 weeks and still so much pain. I miss my Teddy so much. They say it gets better but does it really ? I try to keep busy but these big waves of grief come crashing in. 1 step forward 3 steps back. There has to be so many dog deaths out there and are a majority of these pet parents going through the same thing ? GRIEF ? Sometimes I just feel all alone without my soulmate. A part of me died when my Ted Man died. I'm a grown Man and cry almost daily. Just feels like one big nightmare. Still waiting to wake up so I can see Teddy. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted September 30 Moderators Report Share Posted September 30 I am so sorry for your loss, It's how I felt five years ago when I lost my Arlie to cancer, he was my soulmate in a dog. You can rest assured your dog is at peace now... The what ifs blame game happens to most of us going through early grief, it did me when my husband died nearly 19 years ago...it's not that we are guilty of anything but loving them, and the truth is feelings are not facts, but it's that we can't wrap our heads around what happened, and our mind is trying to find some different possible outcome so it searches all the what ifs... Comfort for Grieving Animal Lovers A Dangerous Villain: Guilt Breaking the Power of Guilt A Dangerous Villain: Guilt http://www.pet-loss.net/guilt.shtml http://www.griefhealing.com/article-loss-and-the-burden-of-guilt.htm https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2019/08/pet-loss-when-guilt-overshadows-grief.html https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2017/07/pet-loss-when-guilt-goes-unresolved.html I hope this short video brings you some comfort and peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bud Posted September 30 Author Members Report Share Posted September 30 Kayc thanks for responding. To be honest with you I cannot watch the video you sent. It reminds me to much of how free and Loving my Teddy was. I still cannot look at pictures of him, just hurts so bad. I just want to be with him to take care of him and I know if he's in an afterlife he misses me too. I know, sounds weird ! I pray alot now for God to let me be with him someday. I really don't think anyone knows how close I was to my boy. The hurt is killing me. I don't think I'll ever be the same. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted September 30 Moderators Report Share Posted September 30 I know, I was so close to my Arlie, he was my soulmate in a dog. It helped me to write this so his life would never be forgotten. And our cancer journey... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MareBear Posted October 3 Members Report Share Posted October 3 I feel the same way. It’s been 2 weeks for me since I’ve lost my soul pup and the grief seems unbearable at times. I honestly don’t think all pet owners grieve like this. But I also believe they likely didn’t experience the soul connections we did. I’m really sorry for your loss and I feel your pain. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bud Posted October 3 Author Members Report Share Posted October 3 They say you never get over it but it gets easier. I just can't see how I can fully function the rest of my life like this. This is so painful ! All I want is my Tedman back but I know I can't have him. So I pray to God to take care of him till I get there. I just wish I knew if God takes our fur babies to heaven ? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MareBear Posted October 3 Members Report Share Posted October 3 I get it. I really do. I feel the same way. I truly believe dogs have souls and mine will be there when it’s my time. It’s just the agonizing amount of years living without him before it happens that I’m dreading. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members AJWCat Posted October 7 Members Report Share Posted October 7 After losing my cat, suddenly and horribly, I literally had PTSD afterward. The first month was incredibly hard. One days seems "okay" the next day, you fall apart like it's Day One. Time does heal. It just takes a long time, it's slow. I try to remind myself that's just how important he was to us. Even though I've had another cat now for the last 7 years (I got her a few months later) I still love him and will never forget him. At least the physical heartache is gone. That was crushing. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Bud Posted October 7 Author Members Report Share Posted October 7 It's been 6 weeks, I'm still hurting for Teddy. I can't believe I'm still crying like you said, it comes and goes. Just when ya think no more crying it hits you like a brick. Yes, im a grown man and can't believe I cry like a baby. Is this normal ? I've lost a Dad a sister but this tops it off ! This is the worst I've ever gone thru in my life. I just pray to God every day to please let me be with him when I go. Funny thing is, it did bring me closer to God because If doggies go to Heaven, I want to some how make it there too, to be with my little Ted Man ! Please God forgive me for my sins ! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TaraAnn Posted Saturday at 01:09 AM Members Report Share Posted Saturday at 01:09 AM On 9/30/2024 at 7:59 AM, Bud said: Kayc thanks for responding. To be honest with you I cannot watch the video you sent. It reminds me to much of how free and Loving my Teddy was. I still cannot look at pictures of him, just hurts so bad. I just want to be with him to take care of him and I know if he's in an afterlife he misses me too. I know, sounds weird ! I pray alot now for God to let me be with him someday. I really don't think anyone knows how close I was to my boy. The hurt is killing me. I don't think I'll ever be the same. I'm right there with you Bud.. I really am. It's been a month since I lost my golden of almost 14 years. I just can't stand it!!! The worst is I had to put him down right before my 50th birthday. My baby boy... I do the same try to busy myself.. Then I return home and I expect to see him when I open the door.. But all I do is open the door to more tears. I am right there with you.. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted Saturday at 10:45 AM Moderators Report Share Posted Saturday at 10:45 AM @TaraAnn I am so sorry for your loss. My last dog was half Husky, half Golden Retriever, a great combination, my gentle giant. You can rest assured your dog is at peace now... The what ifs blame game happens to most of us going through early grief, it did me when my husband died nearly 19 years ago...it's not that we are guilty of anything but loving them, and the truth is feelings are not facts, but it's that we can't wrap our heads around what happened, and our mind is trying to find some different possible outcome so it searches all the what ifs... Comfort for Grieving Animal Lovers A Dangerous Villain: Guilt Breaking the Power of Guilt A Dangerous Villain: Guilt http://www.pet-loss.net/guilt.shtml http://www.griefhealing.com/article-loss-and-the-burden-of-guilt.htm https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2019/08/pet-loss-when-guilt-overshadows-grief.html https://www.griefhealingblog.com/2017/07/pet-loss-when-guilt-goes-unresolved.html I hope this short video brings you some comfort and peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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