Members South Florida Dad Posted May 19, 2012 Members Report Share Posted May 19, 2012 Our 27-year-old daughter died in September of 2011. It was suicide. Eight months later, I seem to have compartmentalized my grief as best I can although at times all i need is a trigger and I fill with tears. My wife is, like most mothers, suffering the physical effects of withdrawl and separation. We're strong for each other when we each are weak and feel like breaking down. Thank god for a loving wife.But, as time marches forward, I can't help feeling a bit selfish as I watch the news and hear about the death of another child to violence, accident or suicide. I think, OMG that poor family, I know what they are feeling and my heart breaks for them. So, is it selfish to feel this self-pity and sadness when all around us someone needs our help? My grandfather once said to me as a young boy, "Death will come and go and we'll be sad, but death is for the dead and life is for the living." He was very wise and told horrific stories of persecution and bloodshed in Europe. his motto was, "You be the one to tell the stories. To have survived is to have won over death itself."We are truly the survivors, and we need to tell our stories. I am glad I found this place to tell mine.At times I lose my breath and close my eyes and beg God for one more moment with my daughter. For a brief moment hope has returned and then it's gone, just like the child we lost.More to come...Dad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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