Grieving after 2 years

[Yjh12]

I lost my nephew almost 2 years ago and thought I was handling the grief and depression well until I recently broke down all of a sudden. The grieving and depression has caused me to feel a little withdrawn from socializing which I’m okay with but its hard when there are people in my life who don’t understand how hard it is for me to socialize when all I want is to be alone. I’m not sure what I’m asking for to be honest or why I’m even here on this forum. But I guess I’m just looking for someone to talk to who understands what it is like to lose a child. I can’t fault the people in my circle for their lack of understanding because they’ve never experienced what it is like to lose hope, dreams, and aspirations, and a future for a child all in an instant. All I’ve been told is to “just accept it” and move on but the sadness is all I have left of him. How can I let go?

[widower2]

I'm so sorry, and sorry you hadn't gotten a response. I hope the parents are holding up as well as can be expected; maybe if you can support them in some way it will help with your own grief.

 

[KayC]

When I was 14 my sister was in a horrid accident, left her and my other sister disabled, killed Donna's 3 year old son and her a quadriplegic.  Peggy fell easily.  (I was her caregiver until she died two years ago).  Donna lived 50 years, also the paramedics damaged her vocal chord and that was the worst of her injuries as it was only those of us close to her that understood her, often her having to repeat herself.

In her mind Jimmy was in TX (a place she used to live) and she kept bags packed for "when she went to TX," a fantasy we allowed her.  Why keep telling her he died.

When in my 20s my little sister had a baby born without a brain...little Courtney died just shy of two years old.  She had no cognitive ability but she had a spirit, she could laugh, she was so sweet!  Had to be fed through a tube in her stomach.  But we all loved her.

Losing a niece or nephew is very hard.  Be there for the parents, even while grieving your own loss.  (((hugs)))