Members Popular Post TAM1 Posted June 9, 2023 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted June 9, 2023 With any loss, be it through death, divorce, estrangement of any kind the adjustment takes so much out of a person’s life, energy and resources. For myself it’s been the realization of the loss of someone, things, and a life gone missing. Six ½ years later it’s not that the losses have dulled (and there have been many), but there is knowing and accepting these people and things are not there and never will be. After loss one’s life is shaken for it seems a very long time and one seeks various modalities to ease the pain and move along to a different life. For a time it’s living a life “without” – without the person(s) and what we enjoyed, appreciated and loved. The life of “living without” buffers one from the harshness of loss and there are no rules and no time-frames with regard to handling our griefs. No amount of therapy can make the loss right or “heal the split” and the sadness and madness that loss brings into our lives. I am alone, have lived alone for almost 6 ½ years whereas the prior 60 years there was always someone there, growing up with family, my son, then Len, then just Missy (my Golden retriever) and then just myself in August 2018. Being alone, living alone, has meant learning to like my life as it is now, and to like myself as I am now, and no one can do that for another person. 7 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Roxeanne Posted June 10, 2023 Members Report Share Posted June 10, 2023 11 hours ago, TAM1 said: but there is knowing and accepting these people and things are not there and never will be. It's a great accomplishement TAM1! Something i'm still struggle with... 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted June 10, 2023 Moderators Report Share Posted June 10, 2023 I was thinking about that yesterday, you're one ahead of me...that of giving up the home that you love and living in an apt. where you have to deal with things a homeowner doesn't. I know that's hard and I can't imagine...so I continue to struggle to maintain my place even with the hardship it sometimes presents. I guess you know you're a favorite of mine and I look up to you and admire you, you have accomplished a lot! 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Gail 8588 Posted January 24 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted January 24 Griefsucks810, I love the fierce determination I hear in your words. I felt that fierce determination when I finally made myself change how I was existing. My emotionally detached zombie existence was killing me. I was either going to change or die because I could not go on living as I had been. Keep striving to create a better life for yourself. You can make it back to a life that has some happiness again. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TAM1 Posted January 25 Author Members Report Share Posted January 25 Why? Because it is home and when all is said and done, all of the hard work, it is home - a place of safe harbor for body, mind, soul, pets, things we have cherished for a long time. Even with the various struggles and hardships, it's home. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TAM1 Posted January 25 Author Members Report Share Posted January 25 No troubles - I think there was confusion. After Len passed I had the responsibility of probating his estate, selling our home, a huge lot of work that eventually settled. I live in an apartment now, up in the foothills here. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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