What positive can you list today?

[HisMunchkin]

14 hours ago, KayC said:

Great, you tell the opthamologist how to do his job.  I'm out of it.

Sorry, was just trying to help..... 

I am quite surprised that he/she just gave you a topical steroid and sent you home.  Hope your eye is all better now.   

[KayC]

This morning my BS is 100, that's a marked improvement over the last few days with my eye situation!  BS doesn't lie.  It is like a thermometor, showing when you have something physical, pain, lack of sleep, anything going on!  So even though I still have swelling and a marked sore where it burst a few days ago, I know it's  getting better.

[Rey Dominguez Jr]

18 hours ago, KayC said:

BS doesn't lie.

Whenever Veronica’s BS was high and was difficult yo bring down, it was usually because she had some sort of infection going on.  Her endocrine doctor was pretty darn good at responding to her request for help and getting her something like an antibiotic to take care of what ever was going on once he figured out what was happening. 

[KayC]

BS up this morning...we're in the middle of a heat wave, over 100, 86 in house with A/C running on high...heat raises BS, so does pain or any malady.  Two more days of these temperatures.  Sigh.  It is what it is.

My positive is yesterday I heard from an old friend from my other grief site, an archeologist in MT, she's amazing what she's survived, and she thinks I am from my resilience.  Anyway, we had a great talk, should do it more often.

[Roxeanne]

I returned to Paris seven years after the last time with him...sweetbitter feelings! Notre Dame burned out but it's still here...as my love for him!

[KayC]

Wow, kind of like an analogy of your loss.

102 yesterday, not cooling off enough at night.  One more day of this heat wave, will be thankful tomorrow when it's in the upper 80s instead of 100s.

My daughter is thankful she has been able to work in A/C.  She's going through the same thing as me in her 4th story apt. with portable A/C.  

[WithoutHer]

Only have 2 days of the next 10 projected in the 80s although 89 isn't a big help. I'm thankful however because of the apartment's small size when my A/C begins to struggle, about 95 or 96 outside, it's able to hold about a 24 degree differential. This place is old not well insulated and the sun alone does a number of driving up the afternoon indoor temperatures.

[KayC]

Just rescheduled getting my car detailed!  Next Monday it is!  Had to be postponed when Iris got a flat tire and then my eye ER...found out he's been sick anyway.

[widower2]

It rained all day. I think that's a positive as we needed it.......but now I will have to mow   

[RichS]

A few weeks ago someone offered FREE BOBBLEHEADS of players the used to play for the Carolina Hurricanes hockey team. The ad on Craigslist said, "These as well as other items are sitting on our front lawn, ready to be picked up, whoever comes first." I just sold all of them (12) for $60.00.

In addition, I also picked up an almost new wine rack and a steel designed wall mounted clock; both of which I donated to our local thrift store. 

This doesn't happen too often; so I was thankful it was a win---win---win situation for all of us.

 

[Rey Dominguez Jr]

RichS, very cool!

Dusted the furniture in the living room, vacuumed and mopped the floors in the house.  Probably a good thing seeing as how Veronica’s sister and brother-in-law are arriving for a visit Monday afternoon.  They’ll be here for about 3 days, during which time Veronica’s sister told me she wants to visit her Veronica at Miramar.  Told her I would be glad to take her.  She has not been here since last year, around this time, for Veronica’s funeral.  I guess this will be a “first” for her sister, coming to visit without Veronica being here.

[RichS]

9 minutes ago, Rey Dominguez Jr said:

Dusted the furniture in the living room, vacuumed and mopped the floors in the house.

Rey:  Debating whether we should hire cleaners for a one time cleaning, or to fly you in from San Diego.   

[KayC]

4 hours ago, widower2 said:

It rained all day. I think that's a positive as we needed it.......but now I will have to mow   

Rain sounds good!  Only time I recall it raining hard in the summer here is when our roof was off, it was very hot, they didn't predict it and we pulled it off...it poured like nothing I've ever seen!

Good luck with the mowing, can you wait a couple of days for it to dry out?

Joseph (Jack's son) came and mowed yesterday.

[KayC]

11/9/21 My IRA took a nose dive...yesterday is the first time it's recovered what it was then.

[RichS]

2 hours ago, KayC said:

11/9/21 My IRA took a nose dive...yesterday is the first time it's recovered what it was then.

The Dow crossed over 40,000 for the 2nd time in the last few weeks. They're predicting an interest rate cut in September. If that happens, the market should move further up. Stay tuned....................

[KayC]

I sure hope so! 

[shawnt]

The market always goes up .......

 

 

 

eventually.

[KayC]

Sure took it's time!

Got knee brace ordered, it'll be here Monday.  Eye just took a back seat.

[WithoutHer]

This might seem a weird positive but I had to share it. Bella my black and white long hair kitty was sitting on the arm of the chair with me as she often does. Of the critters she is the most tuned into my emotions especially when I'm feeling the grief deeply. She's also the oldest. She is a quiet kitty with a purr that can't be heard but only felt especially under her neck. She never meows for anything.

As I was petting her with tears thinking of Vickie I was looking straight into her eyes and said Bella I wish you could talk to me and tell me what you're thinking. She raised her head a little bit and mouthed two quiet meows in succession. I couldn't believe it. She never makes a sound then this and the timing. It felt like such an acknowledgement of understanding. She was definitely her mom's kitty and this made me feel as if Vickie's spirit is a part of her.

[KayC]

Animals are more in tune than we'd think, and there's always that special one.

I'm so glad you had this experience with her!

[KayC]

This is a positive for Iris:
She had her place listed for sale, she'd run the gamut of looking for roommates, looking for homes, you name it and she woke up one day and the words popped into her head, "Bloom where you are planted."  She kept coming back to that.  She realized she really didn't want to leave her place and advertised for someone again.  She found someone, a Dr. Love who has naturalpathic medicine and lives here in Oakridge.  They hit it off, talked for hours, Arja gave notice at her place, signed the rental agreement, and Iris began moving her stuff out of the huge office and preparing to share her home.  Arja's refrigerator just gave out.  Her landlord never does anything so just another confirmation for her.  She is in her 50s and in good health.  

Iris sent out invitations to neighbors & friends to come view her taking down her for sale sign (everyone thinks she's moving away) but the reality is they get to meet her new roommate AND witness the removal of her for sale sign...but for different reason than they thought.

That will be held tonight, I will go for a while, I don't eat dinner and I don't stay up late, but will be there for the first bit and to meet Arianna and welcome her.  I'm so excited for her!  Also, Iris found someone willing to rent a room to her a couple times a week in Eugene so she can pursue her educational interests.  They hit it off and agreed upon a price, what she's getting from Arja will cover her expenses.

It sounds like everything is working out for her and I couldn't be happier for her.  Kodie will get to keep his playdate and Jazzy won't have to give up her yard, which would be major for her after losing Mike, that was a lot.

[KayC]

Went to Iris' place, took Kodie with me, him and Jazzy were too busy getting to know people to play.  Up past my bedtime 1 1/2 hours.  Met someone nice I could relate to, we grew up in the same area, know the same places, him eight years after me. Arja seems nice, into healing and cooking.

[KayC]

Positive today, had my car cleaned by Sweeky Clean, they did a great job and even brought it back to me! Can't beat that!  I just got everything put back into it.

[Rey Dominguez Jr]

Spent the day with Veronica’s sister and BIL.  Went to breakfast and then went to show Veronica’s sister where my bride was resting.  Veronica’s sister really appreciated seeing her place at Miramar before they left Sandy Eggo.  Spent the rest of the afternoon driving down to the beach and walking around.  Type of day where I would be pushing Veronica up and down the beach-side sidewalk in her wheelchair, looking at all the shops with her sister.

Later, had our younger son and DIL over, along with Veronica’s cousins for a short visit.  I took the opportunity to let Veronica’s cousin, who is also Type I diabetic and insulin dependent, go home with two grocery bags full of insulin pump supplies.  Loaded her cousin up with insulin cartridges and infusion sets for his pump which is identical to Veronica’s.  Veronica would be happy to know I let him have the pump supplies.  So that is the first time I have given away some of her stuff.  Small steps.

[KayC]

Sounds like a wonderful day!

[Bou]

On 7/14/2024 at 6:19 PM, KayC said:

This is a positive for Iris:
She had her place listed for sale, she'd run the gamut of looking for roommates, looking for homes, you name it and she woke up one day and the words popped into her head, "Bloom where you are planted."  She kept coming back to that.  She realized she really didn't want to leave her place and advertised for someone again.  She found someone, a Dr. Love who has naturalpathic medicine and lives here in Oakridge.  They hit it off, talked for hours, Arja gave notice at her place, signed the rental agreement, and Iris began moving her stuff out of the huge office and preparing to share her home.  Arja's refrigerator just gave out.  Her landlord never does anything so just another confirmation for her.  She is in her 50s and in good health.  

Iris sent out invitations to neighbors & friends to come view her taking down her for sale sign (everyone thinks she's moving away) but the reality is they get to meet her new roommate AND witness the removal of her for sale sign...but for different reason than they thought.

That will be held tonight, I will go for a while, I don't eat dinner and I don't stay up late, but will be there for the first bit and to meet Arianna and welcome her.  I'm so excited for her!  Also, Iris found someone willing to rent a room to her a couple times a week in Eugene so she can pursue her educational interests.  They hit it off and agreed upon a price, what she's getting from Arja will cover her expenses.

It sounds like everything is working out for her and I couldn't be happier for her.  Kodie will get to keep his playdate and Jazzy won't have to give up her yard, which would be major for her after losing Mike, that was a lot.

first off how do  you view the latest responses with out having to go through all the old ones?  Not the most tech savvy in the bunch here lol

Bloom where you are planted.....     this saying hit me like a ton of bricks this week as well.  I have a painting at camp that has this on it and I know its there but you know when you just look at something all the time it just doesn't stand out anymore.  Well it hit me like a ton of bricks.  Something I needed.  So to hear you mention it again delights me and is also such a coincidence as well.  

[widower2]

7 hours ago, Bou said:

first off how do  you view the latest responses with out having to go through all the old ones?  Not the most tech savvy in the bunch here lol

There is no way, unfortunately, at least that I'm aware of, to automatically go to the first post in a thread that's new to you. 

[KayC]

I opened every thread when I started, then when I came on I could clearly see what had not been read and could keep up. You can't catch up with everything, just start where you are at.

[WithoutHer]

7 hours ago, Bou said:

first off how do  you view the latest responses with out having to go through all the old ones?  Not the most tech savvy in the bunch here lol

I haven't been on the site with a computer for a while but using my phone when the list of topics/threads appears one's that have new replies are bold lettered. Too the right of the topic the first letter of the most recent poster or their picture appears. Directly underneath that letter a minute or hour indicator. I click on that indicator and it goes directly to the latest post. From there you can scroll up to see any new prior posts. You will see a yellow line when you come to the last post you read. The line sometimes doesn't appear but checking each time stamp is another clue and usually you'll recall you've already seen the post. But this works for me.

[WithoutHer]

4 minutes ago, KayC said:

I opened every thread when I started, then when I came on I could clearly see what had not been read and could keep up. You can't catch up with everything, just start where you are at.

@KayC please see my reply. Does the site show this similar on a PC screen. 

[KayC]

Yes 

[widower2]

23 minutes ago, WithoutHer said:

I haven't been on the site with a computer for a while but using my phone when the list of topics/threads appears one's that have new replies are bold lettered. Too the right of the topic the first letter of the most recent poster or their picture appears. Directly underneath that letter a minute or hour indicator. I click on that indicator and it goes directly to the latest post. From there you can scroll up to see any new prior posts. You will see a yellow line when you come to the last post you read. The line sometimes doesn't appear but checking each time stamp is another clue and usually you'll recall you've already seen the post. But this works for me.

I did recall seeing the yellow line and forgot about it, but didn't realize that about clicking on the date/time stamp to the right of the thread. Thanks for that!

 

[WithoutHer]

31 minutes ago, widower2 said:

I did recall seeing the yellow line and forgot about it, but didn't realize that about clicking on the date/time stamp to the right of the thread. Thanks for that!

 

My fumbling thumb discovered it not long after signing up. Hopefully this will help @Bou navigate easier. 

[Rey Dominguez Jr]

Veronica’s sister and BIL left this morning for Los Angeles to meet BIL’s family for a couple of days, then they are driving to Las Vegas to meet up with their son and DIL and granddaughter.  One of those trips Veronica and I would have made in the past.  It was nice to have them here, a nice distraction.  

After they left, I gathered up the bed sheets and towels and piled them for washing.  Also needed to wash some clothes for tomorrow.  Problem was the clothes were such a small pile it would have been a waste of water.  So, I threw the clothes in the washer with the bath towels and got a full load in the washer.  Reverted back to my Navy days before we got married and threw almost everything in the wash.  Veronica would be giving me heck for not keeping stuff separate.  In my mind, it’s all been through the wash many times over so nothing is going to happen to the colors anymore.  Is this a “guy thing?”

[Sparky1]

I wash the coloured clothes with the towels together. The bed sheets I wash in a separate load. The drying is the more tedious task since a lot of my coloured clothes are all cotton ( I dread polyester). I have to wash the t-shirts and socks on the delicate cycle, and towels and such on the regular cycle.

[RichS]

5 hours ago, Rey Dominguez Jr said:

Veronica would be giving me heck for not keeping stuff separate.  In my mind, it’s all been through the wash many times over so nothing is going to happen to the colors anymore.  Is this a “guy thing?”

Chris told me a long time ago never to wash towels with clothes; especially shirts and pants (possible color running off from the towels, plus the fuzziness of the towels blending in with the clothes). Now you know all I've learned in 42 years of marriage!    Remember the show, The Odd Couple (with Tony Randle and Jack Klugman)? One was a neat freak, the other one was the total opposite. I probably fall somewhere in between both of those guys.

[widower2]

Wise words on towels. Odd Couple was a great show...

 

[KayC]

7 hours ago, Rey Dominguez Jr said:

Is this a “guy thing?”

Nope!  I normally do 1 or 2 loads a week so wash everything together, I find my old machine I had a million years did a much better job cleaning.  Seems the sensor has never worked and whether it's a small or large load, the washer fills all the way up.  I use cold most of the time unless I have stains I need to get out and usually it doesn't no matter what I use or do.  Kodie's blankets are separate, so much fur!

31 minutes ago, widower2 said:

Wise words on towels. Odd Couple was a great show...

OMG, I loved that show!  Wish they had reruns on...

[RichS]

Not a re-run, but here's the theme song:

 

[KayC]

Love them!  Felix would be hard to take but Oscar is funny!  Remind me of a couple of gay guys down the street.  Very different from each other.

[ThereIsAField]

I wash everything together... Anything that doesn't survive that treatment gets thrown out... Then it simply wasn't destined to survive my housekeeping skills and so it's no loss.... 😄

[KayC]

Makes sense to me!

Iris evacuated to Sweet Home, she has a friend there but it's further away.  

I took most of my refrigerator/freezer in case the electric company shuts the power off, but her refrigerator is full and my ice is melted, she's bringing some ice home after work.  I'm fixing dinner tonight, tomorrow night, night after that.  Good way to get rid of stuff and help earn my keep.

I figure my food is kind of like your clothes @ThereIsAField, whatever doesn't survive isn't meant to.

[WithoutHer]

1 hour ago, KayC said:

Makes sense to me!

Iris evacuated to Sweet Home, she has a friend there but it's further away.  

I took most of my refrigerator/freezer in case the electric company shuts the power off, but her refrigerator is full and my ice is melted, she's bringing some ice home after work.  I'm fixing dinner tonight, tomorrow night, night after that.  Good way to get rid of stuff and help earn my keep.

I figure my food is kind of like your clothes @ThereIsAField, whatever doesn't survive isn't meant to.

To me it's terrifying what you have to deal with living in a fire area. And you've survived it all these years. I'm praying you get through this one and get to go home. I just can't imagine myself in that situation. 

[shawnt]

I bleach my white socks and fish towels. Everything else can go together. I usually wash my bedding desperate because it is a full load.

My positive is I am going camping with an old friend and I am really looking forward to it. Off on an adventure!!!

[ThereIsAField]

What are fish towels?

[shawnt]

Sorry, typo. Dish towels.

[KayC]

11 hours ago, WithoutHer said:

To me it's terrifying what you have to deal with living in a fire area

This is the fourth summer, all the 43 years before we never had this...and it's all because OR has changed how it practices dealing with logging, etc. Mgt has changed incredibly.  Environmentalists should take a look at the big picture, not just their own interests.  Enough said.  Hard enough having the snow to deal with in the winter.  The fires are starting early this year, we have 2 1/2 months left in the season...

[shawnt]

Or the towel I use when I wash my goldfish. I like them nice and dry before I put them back in their bowl.

Bad joke of the day.

[KayC]

Love the typo, so funny!  My BIL had "Bert's Fish'N Stuff after he retired, it sold anything to do with fishing.  I always bought him things with fish on them, so I just thought "Here's another person that loves fish!" 

[ThereIsAField]

2 hours ago, shawnt said:

Sorry, typo. Dish towels.

I thought it might be something I'd not heard of 😄 🐟🐠🐟