Members Sara Fly Posted April 8, 2023 Members Report Share Posted April 8, 2023 On Wednesday I came home to find my beautiful, beloved Sergio had died in a freak accident me and my boyfriend took the plunge 4 weeks ago and rented a house together for the first time after being together only 6 months, but it felt the right time I was anxious about moving my beloved cats, Sergio who only turned 1 2 weeks ago and Stevie who is 9 months as I knew it would be a massive change and would cause them a great amount of stress to start with, but I believed I was giving them a better life as we had lived in a 1 bedroom top floor flat and now they would have a big house and garden to play in. My boyfriend has a 3 year old cat bluebell who wasn’t keen to get to know my 2 and often would hiss and show signs of aggression (she’s even been like it with me). My 2 are such gentle, loving souls and gave her a wide birth and only occasionally would react to defend themselves. My 2 had settled in so well, and Sergio being the more timid out of the 2, had found a safe place in the base of my boyfriends sofa as the underneath zip had been left open for what ever reason. I had a little look in to check it out when he first did it and it was a hollow box almost and no chance to him getting crushed. If new people came in or any loud noises came from outside he would hide there or sometimes just fall asleep in there. I believed he was safe. But Wednesday 5th April I came home to find he was dead inside. I looked for him when I came home as they both usually greet me at the door but only Stevie did I saw his tail poking out underneath and called him but no movements. I got on the floor and shook him from underneath and liquid starting pouring down i put my hand inside the opening and felt his lifeless body. I was hysterical and afraid of pulling him out as to what I would see. My boyfriend rushed home and got him out. There was a cable tie still attached inside which my boyfriend pulled away and from him lifting the sofa up Sergio had fallen into the corner but my boyfriend didn’t see it was around his neck so may of come off. We believe he must of got his head stuck and either strangled himself or died from stress or heart attack? There was no obvious breakages of marks around his neck. I just hope he didn’t suffer too much. Im absolutely heartbroken and feel we have been robbed of the next 15-20 years together. He was my little boy - I don’t have children so my cats are my children. I keep questioning everything: if I had never moved them, had a zipped the sofa up to stop him going in there, if I had came straight home from work rather than going shopping, the list goes on! I miss him so much and mornings are the most difficult. I just want him back 💔 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted April 9, 2023 Moderators Report Share Posted April 9, 2023 I am so sorry for your loss, I came here yesterday but nothing was here so must have just missed you. It's the hardest thing in the world to lose your cat or dog, they are so loyal and we are so attached. You can rest assured your kitty is at peace now... The what ifs blame game happens to most of us going through early grief, it did me when my husband died nearly 18 years ago...it's not that we are guilty of anything but loving them, and the truth is feelings are not facts, but it's that we can't wrap our heads around what happened, and our mind is trying to find some different possible outcome so it searches all the what ifs... Comfort for Grieving Animal Lovers A Dangerous Villain: GuiltBreaking the Power of GuiltA Dangerous Villain: Guilthttp://www.pet-loss.net/guilt.shtmlhttp://www.griefhealing.com/article-loss-and-the-burden-of-guilt.htmhttps://www.griefhealingblog.com/2019/08/pet-loss-when-guilt-overshadows-grief.htmlhttps://www.griefhealingblog.com/2017/07/pet-loss-when-guilt-goes-unresolved.html I hope this short video brings you some comfort and peace. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members AJWCat Posted April 9, 2023 Members Report Share Posted April 9, 2023 What a tragic accident, my breaks reading it for you and your sweet kitten. It's so hard to constantly protect every single little thing. I hope you can find some peace through your grief. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sara Fly Posted April 12, 2023 Author Members Report Share Posted April 12, 2023 On 4/9/2023 at 11:45 AM, KayC said: I am so sorry for your loss, I came here yesterday but nothing was here so must have just missed you. It's the hardest thing in the world to lose your cat or dog, they are so loyal and we are so attached. You can rest assured your kitty is at peace now... The what ifs blame game happens to most of us going through early grief, it did me when my husband died nearly 18 years ago...it's not that we are guilty of anything but loving them, and the truth is feelings are not facts, but it's that we can't wrap our heads around what happened, and our mind is trying to find some different possible outcome so it searches all the what ifs... Comfort for Grieving Animal Lovers A Dangerous Villain: GuiltBreaking the Power of GuiltA Dangerous Villain: Guilthttp://www.pet-loss.net/guilt.shtmlhttp://www.griefhealing.com/article-loss-and-the-burden-of-guilt.htmhttps://www.griefhealingblog.com/2019/08/pet-loss-when-guilt-overshadows-grief.htmlhttps://www.griefhealingblog.com/2017/07/pet-loss-when-guilt-goes-unresolved.html I hope this short video brings you some comfort and peace. Thank you so much for responding and for the links. the video made me cry 💔🌈🐾 I hope he is there waiting for me… it’s a week today I miss him so much 😞💙 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted April 13, 2023 Moderators Report Share Posted April 13, 2023 I have every hope/expectation they will be there waiting for us. Pets go to heaven Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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