Members Popular Post WithoutHer Posted March 4, 2023 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted March 4, 2023 In less than an hour it will be 3 weeks to the day I lost my Vickie. I can't go to sleep without acknowledging my own feelings that are so much the same as so many here. The 2 usual places she sat are empty and she will never be there again. It's a small apartment and there's no place that doesn't show her presence. There a clothes baskets she purchased to sort some new clothes she was buying because she didn't have room in her dresser. There are other things she purchased for herself never opened. I see all this realizing she will never get to enjoy them. My eyes fill with tears because of that and I don't have any desire to move or discard any of because they are hers and setting in the last place she worked with or organized them. We got along so well. The pandemic started just as I retired. She couldn't work and was on disability. So we were able to be home together for the entire thing. We were completely happy being homebodies together. I have read so many of others loses here even though I don't say much in reply because I don't know what to say. But I have learned here that there is nothing unique about what I'm feeling with this intense grieving. I joined for the very reason that I could voice my feelings to a group that understood because i have no direct family left and only her daughter who is far away and one very busy friend to share with. I appreciate every read I get and only ask the group to not judge me lack replying sometimes. All too often I just don't know what to say. I have tears for your loss as well mine. I'm hoping there will be a day in the not to far future that will at least feel a little normal even being here with only our pets keeping me company. Thank you for reading. It's now officially 3 weeks to the day as I post. 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post RichS Posted March 4, 2023 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted March 4, 2023 WithoutHer: I can certainly relate to not wanting to remove any of your wife’s things. I can’t even look at some of Chris’ things which always remind me that she’s gone from this world. The furniture, the Knick backs, the wallpaper, the whole house has her name written all over it. I would’nt change anything. It’s a reminder of her and what she meant to me. Yet with all these things the emptiness of her not being here haunts me everyday. No one on this board will judge you for not replying to posts. The fact that you’re here on this board letting your feelings be known is what all of us are here for. The support and sympathies expressed by our members bring us all some comfort; as we all struggle through our grief journey. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted March 4, 2023 Moderators Report Share Posted March 4, 2023 7 hours ago, WithoutHer said: only ask the group to not judge me lack replying sometimes. There is no requirement to reply/respond...ever. It's all up to the person. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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