Members swte Posted January 9, 2023 Members Report Share Posted January 9, 2023 I still have things to take care of that were his, I try then give up. I cry every night, during the day, some days are better then others but then I feel guilty đ I can usually bring me back from things, this has put me beyond that & I'm lost. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MCBELLA Posted April 5, 2023 Members Report Share Posted April 5, 2023 Hi, Iâm so sorry for your loss. I too lost a son. On December 10/2020. He was 31. Living at home. Never married. Near genius IQ with Touretteâs and Asperger syndrome. One of the sweetest men you might ever meet. He and I donated plasma twice a week. My son jumped off a 100 foot overpass near our home 2 days after one of theses ~Mother & Son plasma outings. I had told him, âNat, youâre great! I love you.â Why? I donât understand? To this day my rational mind tells me itâs a question that will never be answered. Yet, I canât eat for days at a time. I miss him so much! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members My girl is in heaven Posted April 12, 2023 Members Report Share Posted April 12, 2023 Swte and Mcbella..let me start my saying how very sorry I am for the loss of your dear boys.  I lost my daughter 12 yrs ago so I know the path you walk.  We all feel the guilt at times, after all that was our most important job in life was to keep our kids safe.  But who amoung us would not have moved heaven and earth to save our children.  We need not feel guilty.  As far as dealing with our childâs belongings, that is very difficultâŚit took me 7 years and I had to do it in bits and piecesâŚI knew my daughter had no use for any of those things anymore, so I kept a few things , then thought of how happy some other kids would be getting a pretty dress, or a soccer ball, so thatâs what I kept thinking to get me thru that.  Please know you are not alone on this journey that none of us wanted to be on.  Donât hesitate to reach out if I can be of help to you in anyway.  My name is Luanne.  Hugs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MCBELLA Posted April 12, 2023 Members Report Share Posted April 12, 2023 How did you make it through a holiday without wanting to crawl into your bed? I just want to sleep and cry until it is over. It has only been a little over 2 years. I donât want to celebrate without him. Even though I have 4 other adult children and my husband still. I know I will see my son again. I know it wasnât anyoneâs fault. I donât blame myself. It is just difficult to find friends that can understand or are understanding of the horrible feelings of grief that I am going through. This is all part of the process of healing. We have to get past this stage but the only way is through. People act like it is not ok or good for one to be sad when grieving the loss of their child. My husband will avoid me for days. That is way I joined this forum . I want to find others that I can grieve with. Maybe this isnât what I am looking for? Thanks for the advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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