Members tumn Posted November 22, 2022 Members Report Share Posted November 22, 2022 I just lost my baby. It is so hard to cole. I don't know what to do. I just cry all day and lay down on my bed. I even lost the motivation to move. It is so hard without him here. We were able to spend just 3 months with him. It is very hard. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted November 23, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted November 23, 2022 I am so sorry! He is beautiful, he looks young and vibrant, what happened! He's so sweet! What is his name? I am very sad for you, it's the hardest thing in the world. Comfort for Grieving Animal Lovers I hope this brings some comfort and peace... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tumn Posted November 23, 2022 Author Members Report Share Posted November 23, 2022 His name is toffee. He was very active a few days ago but then, he started not eating anything, vomiting, not sleeping for 24 hours. It was too late before we were able to go to the vet. He's just 6 months old :(( 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted November 23, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted November 23, 2022 I am so sorry, who knows what was failing, maybe kidneys, nothing could have been done had you known sooner. It's so unusual so young. I'd give anything to bring him back. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tumn Posted November 23, 2022 Author Members Report Share Posted November 23, 2022 40 minutes ago, KayC said: It is so hard for me. I lost 2 of my fur babies this year. We were just able to spend time with toffee for 3 months. Everything reminds me of him. I am really having a hard time :(( 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members AJWCat Posted November 23, 2022 Members Report Share Posted November 23, 2022 Oh I am so sorry to read this, how tragic and strange. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted November 24, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted November 24, 2022 Thinking of you today, I know it's hard, the emptiness you feel where he should be.... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tumn Posted November 25, 2022 Author Members Report Share Posted November 25, 2022 I am filled with guilt and questions. If only i have been hours earlier and if only if I have always guard him and all. It is so hard for me. It's been days and I don't have the will to move 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted November 26, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted November 26, 2022 OH my gosh, we are ALL filled with "if onlys" in the early time! The what ifs blame game happens to most of us going through early grief, it did me when my husband died over 17 years ago...it's not that we are guilty of anything but loving them, and the truth is feelings are not facts, but it's that we can't wrap our heads around what happened, and our mind is trying to find some different possible outcome so it searches all the what ifs... I did this also when my soulmate in a dog, Arlie, died. I cooked for him with his lifelong Colitis (not easy for a 140 lb. dog!)...WHAT IF I hadn't fed him brown rice with his meat and vegetables! I had no idea he'd get cancer nor did I realize until a few months after he died that rice contributes to it. On the other hand, had I not, could I have controlled his Colitis without it for 11 years? We don't know what we don't know until we do, and cannot berate ourselves continually for what we did not know. A Dangerous Villain: GuiltBreaking the Power of GuiltA Dangerous Villain: Guilthttp://www.pet-loss.net/guilt.shtmlhttp://www.griefhealing.com/article-loss-and-the-burden-of-guilt.htmhttps://www.griefhealingblog.com/2019/08/pet-loss-when-guilt-overshadows-grief.htmlhttps://www.griefhealingblog.com/2017/07/pet-loss-when-guilt-goes-unresolved.html Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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