Untethered

[PLin]

The feeling I find most prevalent now is one of feeling untethered. It has always been there, probably more obviously, but now it is like this background uncertainty about my life. I often find it hard to ground myself now. I don't think I was aware that Ted was actually grounding my life so beautifully until he wasn't. I had freedom to be me, to explore my life and grow and he held the fort, so to speak. Now that is no longer there I feel untethered.

[Ronni_W]

Hugs, PLin.

That is the same word I used to someone recently -- or maybe I just wrote it in my journal -- "untethered and unmoored".  Instability and uncertainty and doubt and indecision seem to be the overwhelming, these days.

For me, just not feeling at all on firm footing, nor inspired, encouraged, secure, stable and supported on Earth. Similarly, I also didn't realize just how much Ray was contributing to my sense of all of that. Wish I would have seen it when I had the opportunity to say thanks to him, in person...but I do believe that he knew through my other words, actions and gestures.

Sending strength and comfort.   Ronni

[cowsaregreat]

I understand this feeling. I actually felt pretty lonely with my husband for various reasons but now he's gone I feel completely lost. I have no direction, no idea who I am. I think it takes time to rebuild ourselves into who we are now. But that doesn't help with the untethered, lost, directionlessness we feel right now. Sending hugs 🫂

[Gail 8588]

@PLin 

@Ronni_W

It wasn't until after my husband died that I realized how much he was my foundation.  I still feel untethered 5.5 years later.  I hope he knows how grateful I am for the 40 years he enabled me to feel grounded.  I don't know that I will ever have that feeling of security  again, but I am learning to cope with being untethered.

Gail

 

[Roxeanne]

5 hours ago, Gail 8588 said:

.  I don't know that I will ever have that feeling of security  again, but I am learning to cope with being untethered.

I know that feeling...i call it: "dragged by the current"...

It's a costant feeling in my life without my loved one, and the only solution i found that i like is: "flow with tbe flow!"

 

 

[foreverhis]

I've likened it to feeling as if I'm adrift on a river in a bubble over which I have no control, while the world and the people in it flow on by as always.

We may have different analogies, but the feeling seems to be much the same:  The one person who anchored us to the world and life is no longer with us.  We are no longer grounded in the precious reality of our loves.