Members Popular Post Bill V Posted February 25, 2022 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted February 25, 2022 Well between this forum, grief share, reading books and meditating I believe I’m making good progress. I have come to realize no matter what I do I can not bring her back. I have changed my mind from grieving her loss to celebrating her life. I can now look a pictures and feel the joy we had at the time it was taken. Im laughing and smiling again, when I talk about her with my friends I feel joy again. I was fortunate that I had a lot of time to talk with her before she passed, one of the things she kept telling me was to not grieve her loss and move on even remarry. Now I have no intentions of getting married again but someday hope to find a partner to do things like going RVing, traveling etc. I still have work to do but I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I have also found exercising to be a great help have lost 31 lbs so far. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jen H Posted February 25, 2022 Members Report Share Posted February 25, 2022 So happy for you! That is definitely a huge step I've learned to accept we can't bring them back no matter what we do. Being miserable for the rest of our lives won't change anything besides make it worse for ourselves. It's a lifelong process but a possible one! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Tami M Posted February 25, 2022 Members Report Share Posted February 25, 2022 I am glad you have been making good progress. It is definitely a hard road we are traveling. While I too feel progress I still have those days were it is harder. Alot of it is when my daughter is having a rough day (or week as the case may be) My life coach says to keep a journal and write things down so we can see that progress on those bad day. Congratulations on your moving forward. I am very happy for your progress. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members GoldenRose Posted February 25, 2022 Members Report Share Posted February 25, 2022 Reading your post gave me some much needed hope. Tomorrow is the one month “deathaversary” of my beloved husband and I’m feeling pretty sorry for myself today. I can say the first two weeks were the absolute hardest, but these next two have also been filled with many many painful moments. Seeing pictures of us together doesn’t bring me joy yet but I can’t wait until it does. As for your thoughts of finding a partner again, I honestly hope you do. Sharing special moments with someone you love is the best feeling in the world. Thank you for your post and for lifting my spirits today with your positivity and progress! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted February 25, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted February 25, 2022 5 hours ago, Bill V said: I have changed my mind from grieving her loss to celebrating her life. I'm glad! To me it isn't an either/or, it's both. It takes a while to reach a point where you can smile at the memories, it's a process and very individual in it's timeline. 1 hour ago, GoldenRose said: Tomorrow is the one month “deathaversary” of my beloved husband (((hugs))) 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators widower2 Posted February 27, 2022 Moderators Report Share Posted February 27, 2022 Wow Bill that's fantastic; glad you have made such significant progress! I'm sure your wife would be happiest of all with this 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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