Holding it together with terminal wife

[M Olden]

 

 

 

 

[Luminescense]

You sound like an incredibly brave person.

Being you and being there for your wife is the best you can do. More often than not, it is enough. Many people feel guilt, but nothing here is truly your fault.

You shouldn't have to hold in all those feelings. Bottling them up doesn't help. I'm sorry to hear that you don't have any friends or family that can offer a listening ear for you at this time. Is there perhaps a local or online group that meets together once a week/month where it allows you to openly share without judgement? Perhaps a grief & loss counselor or a death doula could help?

If you feel that you are burning out, there are sometimes local services - some may be non-medical, medical, or volunteer services that can come by and spend a few hours making sure your wife is cared for if you need to get out for a small break and I'm sure this helps caregivers a lot.

Definitely focus on your needs, too. Those are important. It also allows you to be at your best if you're well cared for.

Thank you for sharing.

 

[reader]

Sending all our thoughts and prayers.

[M Olden]

Thank you

[reader]

Dear M,

How are you doing? I thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.