Is it ok?

[Helena Louis]

Is it ok to cry every day for almost half a year? Everything is a trigger. In the beginning it was somehow easier but I guess that's because I was in denial. It is hard to breathe.

I can't seem to put myself together and there are a lot of responsibilities to take care of. Life gives no time-offs. Feel like drawing.

[Tamtam]

Hi Helena Louis, 

I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my father on 2nd of January this year so it is almost 6 month-ish. I cry everyday although I don't cry all day like I did in the first 2 month so you are not alone. Everything reminds me of my father and I miss him everyday. I think about what-ifs. I don't know how to keep going and cannot imagine my life without my father. I still do my routines and work but all I think about is my father and what he would say to me. I don't know whether it is ok to cry every day but that is what I feel and do anyways so I am avoiding anything and anyone that does not make me feel it is not ok for me to be what I am right now. I also feel like drawing at times but I let myself feel as that is what I need right now. 
 

[Dogmommy]

I am so sorry for your loss.  I lost my mom from cancer last fall and my dad died unexpectedly six months later.  I have cried every day for nearly nine months, sometimes multiple times a day.  I wish I had some advice but losing our parents is just awful.  Hugs to you.

[bereaveddaughter]

Hi Helena,

I cry in all good and bad times, thinking about my dad. I think we can't really control our tears. Initially, when I was staying at my dad's after his demise, literally everything reminded me of him

A table, which used to be on his side with his water bottle and his blue coloured glass ,

Tissue box on that table to wipe his mucus(sometimes blood) off because of excessive coughing (lung cancer)

A dustbin, near the table, where he would throw those tissues away himself so we don't have to pick those

the sofa where he breathed his last

We tried to change different furniture settings so that we could breathe in the same house after he left us.