Members Healing2021 Posted April 27, 2021 Members Report Share Posted April 27, 2021 Sometimes the guilt goes away and other times it feels like I should have known what was happening. My dad was sick and told me he felt so sick. I keep imagining him saying that. I wish I had done things differently. I wish I had taken him to the hospital. I keep telling myself who knows what would’ve happened. It’s covid so they wouldn’t of let me go with him. What if he was just going to die in the hospital? I try to tell myself that atleast he was at home in his own bed. But I get so angry I didn’t just say let’s go to the hospital. then I think further and it’s like of course if I knew it was serious I would’ve gone. I wasn’t sure and I was watching him constantly. I had contacted his doctor who had just seen him two days before. I didn’t do anything wrong. If I thought or even had an inkling it was a heart issue I would’ve gone so why am I beating myself up? I had horrible anxiety that day and night and couldn’t sleep but I told myself maybe it was Covid, in which case watch him. Maybe it was just a stomach virus and he will get better. He had nausea all the time at night and heartburn he said. I don’t know what else to say other than it feels like I should have known. It feels like I failed in caring for him. I didn’t. There’s no way I would’ve known and I did the best I could. But did I? Maybe if I keep telling myself that then I’ll believe it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members TLN Posted April 28, 2021 Members Report Share Posted April 28, 2021 19 hours ago, Healing2021 said: If I thought or even had an inkling it was a heart issue I would’ve gone so why am I beating myself up? Dear @Healing2021, We who grieve have a way about us of holding ourselves guilty for that of which we are not. I have learned the last 3 years (this May 2nd) since my Father died to counter condemning thoughts in my mind. Just keep telling yourself the truth: There is nothing I could have done differently to change what happened to him. 19 hours ago, Healing2021 said: There’s no way I would’ve known... Oh dear, you are not God--only He knows all things. You are not responsible for what you did not know at the time. When we are not guilty, why should we be condemned? I tell myself, My Father knows I did all I could. If he could tell you, I am sure your father would say the same to you. Be well, @TLN. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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