Members Jessica Lee Posted January 18, 2021 Members Report Share Posted January 18, 2021 I’m struggling with the loss of my abusive mother who passed away at the beginning of November. Even though she was almost constantly a negative presence in my life, I feel sadness at her absence. I also keep feeling the pain of our relationship and I think I expected it to be resolved or something? I keep remembering traumatic childhood memories. I just want to feel better but I just keep feeling worse every day. I almost feel like I am rotting from the inside. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members reader Posted January 18, 2021 Members Report Share Posted January 18, 2021 Dear Jessica Lee, I'm sorry to hear how are you feeling after losing your mother. It is so difficult facing loss even when we've had a difficult and complicated relationship with our parents. Please know no matter how you are feeling it is normal and natural. I hope you can find some additional supports in the community or through church. It's so important to talk to a trusted friend, counsellor or therapist about your feelings. It takes time to work through everything. I know for myself I felt flattened by my dad's passing and wished things could have been different. I hope these websites can also offer additional supports: Grief Share Grief in Common What's Your Grief Thinking of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jacx Posted March 16, 2021 Members Report Share Posted March 16, 2021 I understand this. I wasn’t in contact with my mom when she committed suicide back in July, But I grieve with the relationship that we never had. I hurt for the potential of resolving things or making it better and knowing now that it never will. It’s a strange and painful thing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members MillieMc Posted March 17, 2021 Members Report Share Posted March 17, 2021 I am so sorry but understand. My mother was very abusive emotional and verbally. She passed away February 2020 and I am still struggling with not getting closure. I think I know why she treated me the way she did but when I tried to discuss it when she was alive, in her mind she did nothing. I have to make peace with the fact that her choices were hers alone. I was just the object of her rage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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