Dealing with my Dad's girlfriend!

[momtojared]

My father has been dating this one woman three months after my mother passed away from Ovarian Cancer. I'm trying to get along with her but she is so opionated. First she tells my father how to eat and dress and now she's telling me that I need to lose weight. The last straw was when she told me that I shouldn't take my nine year old son to New York for my mom's unveiling. I try to keep my distance and not to listen to her, but I just learned that on the return trip home (which is a three hour flight), my Dad has to stay in New York for business and I will be traveling alone with her and my son. I'm worried about how I'm going to get along with her. At least in New York, we'll be with family so I won't have to deal with her too much. I want to like her and I'm trying to but lately, she's been pissing me off. It's hard enough seeing my father with another woman, but this would be easier if this was someone I could tolerate.

What should I do?

Thanks!

[ModKonnie]

My father has been dating this one woman three months after my mother passed away from Ovarian Cancer. I'm trying to get along with her but she is so opionated. First she tells my father how to eat and dress and now she's telling me that I need to lose weight. The last straw was when she told me that I shouldn't take my nine year old son to New York for my mom's unveiling. I try to keep my distance and not to listen to her, but I just learned that on the return trip home (which is a three hour flight), my Dad has to stay in New York for business and I will be traveling alone with her and my son. I'm worried about how I'm going to get along with her. At least in New York, we'll be with family so I won't have to deal with her too much. I want to like her and I'm trying to but lately, she's been pissing me off. It's hard enough seeing my father with another woman, but this would be easier if this was someone I could tolerate.

What should I do?

Thanks!

Momtojared,

First of all, I'd like to say I am sorry about the loss of your mom. Now, wow, I am sure you are in a tough situation. Let's hope that if she ends up continuing to be this annoying that your father will eventually see this and move on. He may be attached to her simply because he is desperately lonely and she is the first person who paid attention to him.

In the meantime, get a set of headphones for the trip to New York and listen to your ipod or a book on tape. Try your best to ignore her, and avoid her when you finally reach your destination.

It may help to tell her that you simply don't feel like conversing or being with company at this time, and keep your conversations to a minimum in order to avoid her preaching. Hopefully she may understand where you are coming from.

Have you mentioned to your father that you find this woman somewhat overbearing? He may actually want some input.

Good luck,

ModKonnie