Members Jeff In Denver Posted July 1, 2018 Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2018 Please watch this: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted July 1, 2018 Moderators Report Share Posted July 1, 2018 Thank you for sharing! He made an important distinction. It's so true, we have to remember the whole of the person, not just the part, the whole of the relationship, not only the last day. I have long said that the "if onlys" are our way of looking for a different outcome. It's so hard for us to accept the outcome that "is". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Sunshinerays Posted July 1, 2018 Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2018 Thankyou for posting this. I am carrying the burden of so many "would -ifs and "should-haves" and though I know that some degree of guilt will remain as a part of my days for which part I hold myself accountable, this kind and knowledgeable man has given me comfort and insight. His clarity on the subject of guilt and what it truly is....maybe one day I will be able to see the sun thru the clouds. Not today, not tomorrow, but perhaps one day. To forgive myself, as Max would have done so, unconditionally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jeff In Denver Posted July 1, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted July 1, 2018 You're both welcome. He lost his wife suddenly at a very young age. He's been through hell (as have we, of course), so he's not just some academic talking about this. Guilt and regret are such a big part of this... I guess it's pretty normal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members LoveD Posted July 2, 2018 Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2018 13 hours ago, Jeff In Denver said: You're both welcome. He lost his wife suddenly at a very young age. He's been through hell (as have we, of course), so he's not just some academic talking about this. Guilt and regret are such a big part of this... I guess it's pretty normal. Thanks for the video, Jeff! I lost my husband almost one year. I still have the guilt, but it got lessen. During those intensive grief of months, I wished I didn’t marry my husband, then he probably wouldn’t die so earlier. I have to face the reality and continue my life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted July 2, 2018 Moderators Report Share Posted July 2, 2018 There's no way someone could make a video like that if they hadn't had firsthand knowledge of it. Bless him for sharing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jeff In Denver Posted July 3, 2018 Author Members Report Share Posted July 3, 2018 13 hours ago, KayC said: There's no way someone could make a video like that if they hadn't had firsthand knowledge of it. Bless him for sharing. That's a very good point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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