Members Christinarenea Posted October 12, 2010 Members Report Share Posted October 12, 2010 ok, so I've finally determined that I need a little help in this, and hopefully I'm not alone.....My mother passed away almost 11 years ago (she passed away when I was 16) due to a stroke that caused an aneurysm in her brain to rupture. I am the one that found her, and she was declared brain dead once they got her to the hospital (they brought her back twice), and was placed on life-support, shortly thereafter I was told there was no point in keeping her on it, and she'd be taken off of it. Long story short, my mother and I were best friends and very close, on top of losing her in a 24 hour period, I had to deal with my father showing up (he was not really in my life) and my grandmother blaming first my dad then me for my mother's death for over 3 years, during which time I seriously considered suicide. Ever since then about 2-4 times a year I go into a deep depression that lasts for a few days to maybe a week at a time. During the last bout of depression my husband suggested that with all that happened after her death that I may not have truly mourned for her, and that every time I got through an episode of depression that I react like it just happened the day before. After some thought I realized he might be right and am now trying to figure out a way to deal with this better. The only problem is I've been sinking back into this same depression and trying to figure out solution, which has not been too productive lately. I was just wondering if anyone else has/had suffered long term effects like this after the loss of a parent, and if so how they learned/are learning to handle it, I'm sincerely hoping that I am not the only one out there. I just know that it hurts too much to keep doing this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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