Members soheartbroken Posted November 28, 2007 Members Report Share Posted November 28, 2007 Hello everyone! I'm new here, I've been searching for a support group online. My husband of ten years passed away November 7, 2007. He had been ill for 3 months. He had always been a very healthy man. He never even took an aspirin. It started one day when he said he felt alittle dizzy than started feeling alittle tired. He worked from home, so him and I spent alot of time together. I was a stay at home mom for 7 years. I made appointments after appoinments with primary physicians, neurologist, allergist, opthamologist, psychologist, psychiatrist and three emergency rooms later. He got to the point where he started sleeping more and more about 18 hours a day. Everyone sent him away and diagnosed him with having depression, thats why I ended up at the psychologist/psychiatrist. By this time hes dizzy,extremely fatiqued, headaches,confused and having issues with focusing his eyes. How can this be depression? My children by this time are also wondering why dad does not interact anymore. He does not do anything he use to enjoy anymore. He was the most outgoing person you could ever meet. Myself very shy, but not him. I took him back to the emergency room Monday 11-5-07 he's finally admitted to the hospital at this time he's now pretty lethergic and unsteady on his feet. By Tuesday morning he's already had another MRI, lumbar puncture, CT scan more blood work. Tuesday evening we had the neurologist tell us they've ruled out bacteria and fungus whats left is viral. They believed he had viral encephalitis (swelling of the brain). They told my mother in law and I that they will start him on an antiviral medication and we will see a difference by Wednesday. We were so EXCITED finally some results with no residual effects and finally I would have my husband back. You do not know how EXCITED I was to hear this great news. After 3 months of stressing trying to get him to the right dr. and praying for answers. We told everyone we knew including our children that dad would be better soon. I went back to the hospital that evening around 8 pm to see how he was doing and the nurse said he had a temp of 102.5. also that he had erratic heart beat that day. The dr. had told me nothing to worry about. I left my husband and told him I loved him and I will be back in the morning and that he was going to be fine! I made one last phone call to the hospital around 11:00pm that Tuesday night to see if temp went down and his nurse said it had gone down to 99.0. I didn't get much sleep that night as I was anxious to see results in my husband the next day Wednesday 7th 2007. I started that morning with my usual routine wake up and shower at 6:30 start getting children ready for school. Well as I stood in front of my vanity blow drying my hair the telephone rang it's 7 at this time. I picked up the telephone and it was his dr. He said Teresa I just want to let you know Mr. Collins had a seizure and his heart stopped, BUT we intubated him and he's now in ICU. I hung up and as I tried leaving the house the phone rang again and this time it was a nurse she then said can the family come down. Just then in my heart, I knew what they had to tell us. It was the worst day of my entire life! The longest 10 minute drive to the hospital it felt like hours before arriving there. Just then my life had changed for ever. Now it's just myself and my 3 children. My 6 year old cries herself to sleep some nights. It just hurts so bad to see your children hurt too. I know I will hurt forever but will it get any easier? I just can't accept I will never see him again. He was a wonderful man, always optimistic and never a quitter. He has instilled so many wonderful things into our children and myself. He was my life my best friend. I miss him every second of everyday. I will forever feel incomplete with out him. I loved him so much and he loved us the same. Sorry for the book. Maybe I should invest in a journal next time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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