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[westleysmom]

I don't have any pictures yet, I'm not sure how to do that.  My son Westley died in January and I've been reading your posts for a few weeks.  You seem like you are so close I felt like I was looking at your personal letters.  But I feel so alone.  I just wanted to feel like I was with people who understood.  I dont' think I can do Compassionate Friends, the meetings are an hour away and I would be a complete mess before I got there.  I'd probably run off the road!  My husband and I are doing the best we can, but it is so hard.  Do you have any words or wisdom? How do you live without your babies?

[shorty16]

Westleysmom

Please join us on the link under Loss of an "Adult Child"  Even though my Brian was only 16 when he died, I am welcomed without question.

It will be 2 years tomorrow (6-19) for our family since Brian was killed in a completely preventable car crash (I do not call it an accident, because it was not).

The death of a child has changed all of us.  We are thrust into a new life that we do not want.

On the Adult Child thread, we comfort each other when we are down, because we all know the depth of pain lossing a child can cause us.  We share stories of family, friends and relatives that are both good and bad to us.

Another great thing is we are all at different stages in our grief.  You are so new - others have several years under their belt - Those will several years really help us to know their is light at the end of this long, dark tunnel even though we do not see it now.

Please tell us about your beautiful son, we want to hear about him, we want to say his name and let you know we care.  Great people on this site - they have saved my life several times.  We do not judge each other - grief is so personnal there is no way we could.

Please tell us about your boy

Colleen, Brian's Mother Forever

[westleysmom]

I figured out I had accidentally started a new topic and posted on the Loss of Adult child page like I meant to.  I have to laugh when I log in because it has the "forgot your user name" thing.  Most days I forget my real name.  I'm so sorry about your son Brian. Two years must seem like a very long time.  I know five months has to me.  I'll post more over on the other thread, but please know how sorry I am. 

[Kelly]

Dear Members,

We are excited to mention that we are moving to a more new and improved message boards on MONDAY MORNING AUGUST 9th! The boards will be done for a few hours while we are making the conversation. Remember we posted information about this move a month ago. For some of you this might seem a bit sudden,  but when we were reviewing the site we determined the current message board you are using is out of date and the company that designed it is no longer in existence. The good news is this new message board will have new features that have been requested in the past like more fields we can add to your profiles and a chat room up to 20 people at one time. If we find the chat room is bursting at the seams we will add additional room for extra people. All your old posts, private messages and such will be migrated to the new message board. You might have to put up your profile picture again but not sure. The new company will be doing the migration for us. Here is a short list of some of the new features on the board:

- Custom Profile Fields- Users can customize their profile pages by selecting a background color or background image, with tiling options.- Facebook and Twitter Integration- users can respond to multiple posts at once with "mini-quote"- Pinned discussion threads - like welcome to our board etc.- Announcements made across some boards or the entire message board- Search: Users can easily find all content generated by a particular member, by clicking the 'Find Content' button that appears on the main profile page, or in the Mini Profile Popup which can be accessed throughout the board. The results page allows content to be filtered by application, as well whether the member created it or merely participated in it. - Privacy: allows users to sign in anonymously, hiding them from the online users list. Users also have the option to disable personal conversations and user-to-user emails, as well as ignore other users if necessary.

The next exciting piece of news about the new message board is it will have a new domain name of www.grieving.com for search engine optimization purposes. It will still be apart of Beyond Indigo and can be found through www.beyondindigo.com. We will be redirecting your current URL's to this new domain name but we might miss a few. If that is the case simply go back to www.grieving.com or www.beyondindigo.com to find your message board thread. We will try to make the transition as seamless as possible. 

The bottom line is the new board will give us room to grow our community and more options to interact better with each other. 

If you have any questions please direct them to feedback@beyondindigo.com.

Kelly Baltzell, MA

CEO/President

Beyond Indigo Family