a lost of a friends baby

[afriend]

I have a friend who just lost a child on Nov.8th 2008 she had a little girl she was born at 5 1/2 mons. She was so small so little it hurts me too get on here and talk about. She lived for a few mins. but not long at all. She was 1lb 8oz. 14 1/2in.  Then she found out a little over 5mons. ago that she was due too have another child the due date of the baby was April 15th. She was so happy and so where her other kids (she has 2 girls and a boy) at home.... Well on Dec.12th she lost her baby girl and today i am sitting here babysitting her two little girls while she is at the funeral of her child. I couldn't make myself go today i went last night and i couldn't handle it. And i also didnt go cause the 2 little girls that i am watching is are so little there selfs one is 3 and the other is 4. The baby was 1lb 1.7oz and 10 1/2 in. I have been with her evey step of the way from the time she found out  too now.... I just need help i dont no what too say too her or what too do. She  thanks she done something wrong when she didnt she about lost her little girl who is now 3 she had her at 71/2 mons. They had too give her shots and they had too do a few other things too help get as far as she did. So if anyone can help me plz do. I dont no what too say too her.

   

               Thank you lots of love,

                     Katie

[mysonrich]

Hi Katie, I'm sorry that you are here and I know you also grive the loss of your friends baby. The best thing that you can do is to be there for her. Sometimes words aren't easy to say but a hug and telling her that you care about her, that you are always there for her and want to help in this very,very difficult time. You must also take care of yourself at this time. If you feel up to it there are many people on the thread" Loss of an Adult Child". The children are all ages from sweet babs to  sweet and much loved older children. Please join us there,

 

Betsy,myson,Rich

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