Members aaammmccc Posted September 20, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 20, 2021 I'm not religious at all or spiritual, really, but here's how I think of it. Maybe they are showing signs from elsewhere that they're with you. Or, they loved you so much and left such an imprint of love and caring for you that it's in your mind, your body, and in that way they are with you, and you see things as signs. Either way...their love is with you. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Popular Post KayC Posted September 20, 2021 Moderators Popular Post Report Share Posted September 20, 2021 I don't think a person needs to be religious to accept what occurs as a "sign" as it's based on faith (belief/hope in) not evidence or scientific study, just accepting what "is." I'm personally happy for anyone receiving a sign as it brings comfort/hope/relief to that person and we all need that! 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post tnd Posted September 20, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 20, 2021 3 hours ago, John9 said: When I went into the Living Room the next song that played on the radio was "You Are Not Alone by Michael Jackson" John9: I would take it as a sign. And if it at all comforted you in any way, even briefly, the better. Now, if only I can figure out why no wait, I don't even want to waste any time on it but, I keep having dreams where I hear my husband's voice telling me I need to take truck-driving lessons from Tom Cruise and Val Kilmer. And in these dreams, Kilmer is the better truck driver. Did I mention that my husband watched the movie Top Gun probably hundreds of times?? Not me...I can't stand Tom Cruise. Why him and Kilmer are driving trucks in my head I don't know and maybe I shouldn't know. Thought hearing my husband's voice in these dreams could be a sign but he knows I don't like Cruise. And I'm certainly not going to ever drive a semi-truck. Nice try honey, but try again. Play me one of our songs on the radio. 1 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted September 20, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 20, 2021 tnd, I am still not able to dream or remember any dreams about my wife but as I said before she would always tell me about her vivid dreams and I couldn't tell her anything, I used to have terrible nightmares when we first were married and thankfully that ended. I am surprised they didn't start up again after she died and I hope that they don't, I was always afraid she would be hurt by my actions while dreaming but she never was and I did say she was my rock and my constant and I think that she proved that and that is why I stopped having nightmares. She was always there for me. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Ainslie Posted September 21, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 John9 I truly believe it was your wife. I was talking to a pastor and asked him if he believes that are loved ones are with us and see us. He replied yes and said to speak to them out loud because they can’t here you’re thoughts. So as I was driving home I spoke to my husband out loud and asked if he was there and to give me a sign. The next song that played on the radio was are song. So now I talk to him out loud and always feel he is near me. Keep believing John9. Sending you the biggest hug! 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post John9 Posted September 21, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 Ainslie, Thank you for the hug and I am sending you one as well. I have talked to my wife since she died, I can only hope that she does hear me and will show me the way "through" all of this because that is what she would have done when she was alive. It is just so hard without her and I miss her so much I need to believe she is trying to help me because she knows how hard it is without her. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post WhoamInow Posted September 21, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 Sometimes I feel my husband hug me or I think I do. But yesterday his father died on the 6 month anniversary of his youngest son and my husbands death. I was shocked to receive the call, but my sister-in-law said, “Kevin came and got Dad in the night”. She explained that the night or two before dad died he told his oldest daughter. That Kevin was outside his bedroom window knocking, so dad got up went outside but couldn’t find him. Dad was 93 and wasn’t a big believer in the afterlife. But after seeing his son he was happier. I believe my husband came to get his Dad. I love and miss my husband and I’m grateful he saw his son before he died. I just wish/pray my husband would knock on my window 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted September 21, 2021 Moderators Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 3 hours ago, Ainslie said: I was talking to a pastor and asked him if he believes that are loved ones are with us and see us. Someone recently mentioned to me about soul sleep, yes I've heard that in the bible, but somehow I feel they are aware of us, so much we don't know about how this "beyond" works, I don't discount much, I choose to believe, and I know good and well when I felt my husband's touch on my shoulder/back area that time, no one can talk me out of it. I've had very few dreams about him too, John, I can't conjure them up although a grief counselor once told me I could, IDK, I think some people are better at that kind of thing than others, I don't worry about it. 1 hour ago, WhoamInow said: I believe my husband came to get his Dad. I can't explain these things but I sure don't discount them either! I accept what I can't explain. Perhaps you will get a sign just for you when you most need it. It's was YEARS before I got my very strong one, it was when the soc. sec. office told me I'd get $250/mo. retirement and then left me to worry over a three day weekend before I could verify their information, he touched me on my shoulder/back and I instantly felt calm, and when Tuesday came I called them back and they told me the true amount, it was doable, $250 was not...but I've had other ones now and then along the way...a rainbow (we got a triple rainbow amongst a T&L storm when George died...I figured he made quite an entrance into heaven! ), pansies appearing in extremely unlikely conditions, one below the patio where we had them hanging, it would have taken root and survived a cold snow covered winter! It appeared on his one year anv. of death. Another one appeared three years ago in a sidewalk (pansies are NOT that hardy!) when I was getting hit hard with car repairs, I had just dropped my car off to be worked on and was walking to my church to kill time waiting. I've had others but those stand out to me. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post aaammmccc Posted September 21, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 i forgot to tell "my sign"... Staying at my sister's now. Around the neighborhood, people frequently shoot off fireworks that I heard but never saw. One night, I was looking through old things, remembering, and thinking about how i DID to as much as I could to help my GF before she died and was able to accept it. I happen to look out the window, and that was the first time I saw the fireworks--close enough to see super clear, just through the break in the curtains. Felt like she was telling me it was ok, it wasn't my fault. 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted September 21, 2021 Moderators Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 50 minutes ago, aaammmccc said: Felt like she was telling me it was ok, it wasn't my fault. Aww, that was so special! 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post John9 Posted September 21, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 So today I was rushing to cut the backyard before the 4 day rain comes and this is just there. Now I cut the grass every week and this wasn't there last week and this is in an area where there should be no petunias. Picture doesn't really show it all but had to make it fit the requirements to show it. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members SSC Posted September 21, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 I know flowers John9 and petunias just don’t pop up like this in a week. No way. For sure this is a sign to you from your wife! 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted September 21, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 SSC, That's what I believe too. She knows what it means when I "find" one and she knows I miss her so much she is trying to help me. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Ainslie Posted September 21, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 John9, I feel the same way. Life has been extremely difficult without my husband but I find comfort in believing that they are with us every day trying to help us in anyway they can. Thank you so much for that much needed hug! Thinking about you through this difficult time. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Carolina Girl Posted September 21, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 My grown Kids and I were sitting in my bedroom awaiting the call that my husband had died. (Covid). He had been in the hospital from Nov 14th and died Dec 18th, 2020. During this timeframe, it was so stressful making decisions for his care and life and death questions, that I hardly ate, slept and was just so exhausted beyond words. All of a sudden, I felt a fresh breath of air go thru me deep inside! It was amazing how good it felt...and then I knew...he had passed. I ask my son to look at the time and he said 3:46 pm. When the Dr. called later they proclaimed his time of death as 3:46 pm. ‘Since his death, his reading light on his side of bed has come on twice. It is the side of bed I don’t go on! I questioned my grown daughter and she declared she did not touch it. Didn’t think much about it til it came on again! Another day I cut a wire outside my house accidentally while cutting vines. Long story short...a man came by in a white van that afternoon and said he was there to fix “it”! I said, you’re here to fix what? He shrugged his shoulders and kept sayin “I’m here to fix it”. I told him I did not call anyone and perhaps he had the wrong address. He stood his ground and said...I’m here to fix it. I took him to where the wire was cut...he fixes it and says no charge! I gave him a tip and say thank you, he gets in his truck and drives off! ‘Rest assured there is a God, and we have that chance to see our loved ones again! 6 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post John9 Posted September 21, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 21, 2021 6 minutes ago, Carolina Girl said: ‘Rest assured there is a God, and we have that chance to see our loved ones again! Carolina Girl, Honestly, that statement and similar ones are the only thing that keeps me going. If I didn't think that was true I would be dead already but because I believe if I do anything to end it all, I won't ever see me wife again so I keep going and talking to her and asking her for help and....It is so hard but the little "things" help me and I hope that as long as I am still alive she will continue to be there for me as much as I don't want to ruin her "peaceful" eternity. I just miss her so much. 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Sparky1 Posted September 22, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 22, 2021 1 hour ago, John9 said: Carolina Girl, Honestly, that statement and similar ones are the only thing that keeps me going. If I didn't think that was true I would be dead already but because I believe if I do anything to end it all, I won't ever see me wife again so I keep going and talking to her and asking her for help and....It is so hard but the little "things" help me and I hope that as long as I am still alive she will continue to be there for me as much as I don't want to ruin her "peaceful" eternity. I just miss her so much. John, this is exactly how I feel. I'm not willing to take a chance and do something stupid and not get to be with my wife when it's my turn to go. I long for one thing only and that is to be with her, this is what keeps me going, otherwise there is nothing. It is extremely painful being without her. Every day I talk to her, I hope she can hear me somehow. 3 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted September 22, 2021 Moderators Report Share Posted September 22, 2021 Carolina Girl, my mouth is still gaping open at this! Wow! And John, amazing! What a beautiful picture! This is as my pansies growing, making it through winter snows and popping up where it's impossible! And appearing on his anv. of death. He knew I'd need that comfort that day. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post SSC Posted September 23, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 23, 2021 Thank you everyone for posting these stories. They give me the positive boost I need to make it through the tough times! 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted September 23, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 23, 2021 SSC, I agree with you, they help me too. I just hope I keep having new ones to tell. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post John9 Posted September 23, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 23, 2021 So today I went out to do some shopping and such, I was all done and decided to stop at the bank. While I was in there I was talking to the teller and she said she was watching her neighbors dog and had to wait outside in the rain for him to do his business. I told her that I didn't do that anymore and that I had lost all of my dogs in the last 18 months, she said she was sorry and I said as if that wasn't bad enough that my friend and my wife and MIL had died this year and I started to choke up. I finished and left before totally losing it and started crying when I got outside AND then I get in the car and the same song from the other day starts to play "You Are Not Alone by Michael Jackson" Maybe I grasping too hard for a sign but it sure seems that when I really need it there it is. 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post tnd Posted September 23, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 23, 2021 41 minutes ago, John9 said: Maybe I grasping too hard for a sign but it sure seems that when I really need it there it is. John9: It's a sign for sure. And I don't think it was from Michael. It's your wife. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Jemiga70 Posted September 24, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 3 hours ago, John9 said: but it sure seems that when I really need it there it is. @John9 John I totally understand this. You've had some incredible signs I'd say, between the petunias and the MJ song (a beautiful song by the way). My wife, like yours, shows up and comforts me when I REALLY need it, usually when I'm in the darkest deepest pits of grief and sadness. Things have been happening for me almost non stop since May. My wife started sending me signs the first week she crossed. And since then it's usually been every other day -- sometimes 2 or 3 times a day. Her sense of humor has also come through in some of these signs. I also believe that she sent me a message via telekinesis (when a physical object shifts position) -- and leading up to when that happened, I was in the worst place in my head since the day she crossed over; the grief was colossal. I've noted all these episodes in my journal. One step at a time, man. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted September 24, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 Jemiga70, Thank you for sharing your story, I really do need my wife to be "with" me and to show it and however she does so is okay by me. I just want to know for sure and not have to guess or grasp at straws because I want it so bad. I talk to her "all day everyday" and short of appearing to me or actually talking to me these are what I have. We never had a song that was ours but I think right now this is a contender. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post annie123 Posted September 24, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 I am not sure if this a sign, but for sure, it is a mystery. The other day, I was babysitting my 4 month old grandson. He was laying face up on a mat cooing up at his mobile , I was sitting on the floor near him and my phone, right next to me. My phone starting ringing, but it was an outgoing call, I didn't call anyone. I put on my reading glasses to look (they were on my head) and I started crying when I saw the number, it was my husbands old phone number. Now, my husbands number is not on my plan anymore, and his number is not in my phone, so I didn't bump my phone in error. No one answered the phone, it said that the number has not been set up for messages yet. I looked in my settings and sure enough it said that a call went out to his number. If only he could call me .......or I could call him to tell him how much I miss him. How I wish that was possible......My husband passed away 7 months before our first grandchild was born. But, he knew that our son and daughter in law were expecting. He was happy for them. 4 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post John9 Posted September 24, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 annie123, I can't explain that anymore than I can explain for sure what has happened for me. I would say it is a "connection" if not a sign and the fact that it is an old phone number has to mean something. I also would love to be able to call my wife or have her call me but I do tell her everyday just how much I love and miss her. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jemiga70 Posted September 24, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 @John9 As you do, I also talk to (or speak in my mind to) my wife all day, every day. In fact, now that I think of it, I'm out and about on my bike every day and talking away to her! The funny thing is I'm not at all concerned if other people think I'm totally nuts... I know my OWN truth. @annie123 that is an extraordinary experience. It reminds me of a documentary I watched, "Calling Earth," which deals with a phenomenon called instrumental trans-communication. Let's see if I can put a link here to the Vimeo site. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted September 24, 2021 Moderators Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 All I can say is Wow! 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members annie123 Posted September 24, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 I too talk to my husband everyday. I tell him how much I love and miss him. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted September 24, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 Jemiga70, I watched the video and I agree with KayC, Wow. Am I supposed to answer all of the phone calls now that I have been avoiding (haha) I just want to be with my wife again and if she can talk to me while I am waiting for that OKAY let's do it. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members tnd Posted September 24, 2021 Members Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 19 hours ago, annie123 said: I put on my reading glasses to look (they were on my head) and I started crying when I saw the number, annie123: I'd take that as a sign from your husband. But I'd also take it a step further....I once had a dream of 3 friends of mine who had been murdered. In the dream they came to me, wanting me to go with them to this "great place" that they liked. I said I couldn't but maybe later. One of them wrote down a number and handed it to me, saying that when I was ready, just give them a call. I remember asking if I could call Heaven collect. My friend just smiled and said "just call when your ready". Now that I think about it, maybe what my friend meant was that if I ever needed them or to talk, just call on them and they will hear me. Or come get me and take me to Heaven. I don't know. But maybe that was part of the "message" your husband was trying to send you -to call upon him when you need to and he will be there. And not just by phone. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post John9 Posted September 24, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 24, 2021 I think sometimes the signs we receive are exactly what we need or want, but maybe at the moment we won't or don't see them. I am now looking more for signs then I was before and I may overreach but as I think someone here said, "if it makes you feel better" then believe in it. I know I am in need of all of the help that my wife can give me until this all ends for me. I know that she LOVED me and she still does in whatever way she is allowed. I just miss her so much. 4 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post Heart&Soul Posted September 25, 2021 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted September 25, 2021 @annie123 That was definitely your husband. I had a similar experience. I was all alone after my husband passed, everyone had left and I fell to pieces sobbing uncontrollably. I told my husband that I was lost without him and how could I go on. Finally I pulled myself together. Just then his cell phone pinged. I looked at it and it was a message from my cousin saying "yes I got it". I looked to see that a couple of pictures that my husband took in the hospital of a pen had been sent from his phone. I called my cousin to ask if this was an old text and she was replying just now. She told me no the text was just sent now!!! My husband sent this text to let me know he is with me and because he knew I wouldn't believe it he enrolled my cousin into the plan so I would know for certain he sent it. Whenever I really need him he comes through for me. ❤ 4 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Popular Post KayC Posted September 25, 2021 Moderators Popular Post Report Share Posted September 25, 2021 Wow, that is amazing, I should not be surprised after all of them I've heard, but I'm wowed every time. There's a whole lot we don't know about the spirit world and what's beyond, let alone how it works. Some want to negate what can't be explained, not me, I'm glad I'm simpler and believe. I think children have an advantage over us. Believing is a choice. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted March 2, 2023 Members Report Share Posted March 2, 2023 I am greatly inspired by everyone's post. I've already posted my experience. I just prayed to Chris to somehow let me know if that experience was her. If not, ask God's permission to pay us a visit. It doesn't hurt to ask, even if it would scare the heck out of me! To me, no church is "perfect" because they're comprised of people and their perspectives. Kay, I agree with that statement. All denominations are run by humans. An old Christian man once said to me, "Son, different religions, SAME GOD." By the way, I also finally got some good news from Social Security. My son finally received his back payments (5 months worth). Tomorrow is the 3rd. I'm hoping he gets his regular monthly check. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted March 2, 2023 Members Report Share Posted March 2, 2023 RichS, I'm not sure whether I have expressed my condolences on your loss, if I did, I am doing so again and if I haven't +, I am sorry for your loss. I'm glad that your Son got the money SS owed him and hopefully from this point forward, all will be good on that. What you say about churches is why I am not an organized religion person. But I do believe in GOD and hope whatever is in store for me is over soon. I was just recently diagnosed with esophageal Cancer and it is so overwhelming without my loving wife here to support me and help me through whatever is next. But hopefully somehow she will show me some signs. I haven't seen any lately, that I recognize. Take care, John 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted March 2, 2023 Members Report Share Posted March 2, 2023 John9: I did some reading last night about what you've been through over the last several months. My condolences on the loss of your wife as well. Right now the cross of grief that I have to bear seems lighter than yours, because of your cancer issues. My prayers are with you for a full recovery in the near future. We are both fortunate to have found this board and the nice, caring people on it. It definitely lightens our burdens a little. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members John9 Posted March 2, 2023 Members Report Share Posted March 2, 2023 RichS, Thank you, yes these forums have helped me so much through the absolute worst part of my existence. And now without the love and support of my loving wife, this part of my journey is really hard as well. Take care, John 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted March 3, 2023 Moderators Report Share Posted March 3, 2023 18 hours ago, RichS said: My son finally received his back payments (5 months worth). Tomorrow is the 3rd. I'm hoping he gets his regular monthly check. Yay! Hoping with you... 18 hours ago, RichS said: To me, no church is "perfect" because they're comprised of people and their perspectives. For sure, nor would I expect it to be. But to negate church because of that would be like not going to school or work because they're comprised of people. I find something in church, even though I haven't been able to go lately, the connection... Double the snow predicted last night, my body groans at the thought of going out and tackling it, will wait closer to daylight. I hope there isn't more then. My hands hurt thinking about it, actually my whole body does.. 14 hours ago, John9 said: was just recently diagnosed with esophageal Cancer and it is so overwhelming without my loving wife here to support me and help me through whatever is next. But hopefully somehow she will show me some signs. I'm hoping with you, John. To go through what you are...I am so sorry. Life is so unfair. It would bolster you so much to have a sign from her.... 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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