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Hello All -
Need advice - pragmatic advice.

I'm an American living in europe, and will be dying soon. Due to my medical condition, it lead to a financial condition that lead me to not have the resources for even a cremation.

And no - I'm not asking for any financial help.

But I am concerned about my family ending up with getting stuck with fees for my disposal.

What ever happened to the pauper's funeral? When I go I do not want to have my family get burdened like this.

Thoughts?

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Dear Existential1,

I hear your concern. Depending on where you live the government might provide a basic funeral. I would check with local town office for more information.

Hopefully others can also provide more information.

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Thanks reader.

I did speak with a private funeral home and they said I would have to speak with the town hall of where I live and inquire if I can arrange something. It is a bit awkward as typically no man wants to have to give his hard luck story to a third party, especially being an american in Spain everyone thinks we (american expats) are all well off. And although I'm liked here where I am, the towns folks might resent having to use municipal resources to dispose of a non spaniard - that's what is so annoying about the situation. 

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Please don't think that, I'm sure its very common across the globe. Life happens. And many communities will have a plan in place regardless of your nationality. I hope you can find the answers are you looking for and it will ease your mind.

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The other factor in this equation is that IF and I stress the if part, my illness gets so extreme - extreme with pain and IF I carry out self deliverance to end the pain of something I will die from any, will this change the attitude of the people knowing I died at my own hands when it comes to the expenses to dispose of me?

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Are you working with doctors about your illness? Are there counselors or people of that nature available where you live? What normally happens to people with terminal illnesses where you are living? What do others do that have no means of support? 

Are you a religious person? Could you talk to a leader of your particular faith and ask about support and help? Do you have a friend from the area versed in tradition and culture you could be frank with? 

ModKonnie

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