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Grieving Sister

Lost My Brother

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I lost my younger brother, my only sibling, at 32 years old on July 18, 2017 due to health problems caused by alcoholism.  It hurts like hell.  The rest of my family, including my parents, have been able to get on with their daily lives, their regular routines, but I am struggling so bad that it sometimes feels like I can't breathe.  Can anyone tell me if the pain ever goes away?

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The pain does go away in time. I lost my older brother in an auto accident many years ago. At first, it was horrible, but in time, the pain dulled and receded. People handle grief in many different ways. Some people need to get back into their daily routines as fast as possible in order to feel better, while others need more time. Grieve in your own way, and don't try to stuff your feelings away. Just be you through this, and you will be okay. When the anxiety hits, try deep breathing, counting slowly to 4 and then slowly exhaling several times or finding an object to focus on and continue to breathe while you only think about that object.Sometimes that will help with the anxiety and the feeling of not being able to breathe. (I'm not an expert, but I have seen this work many, many times for lots of people). 

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