I lost my brother and cousin in motorcycle accidents the day after Thanksgiving 19 years ago. It was the most horrible, shocking event I have ever been through. 19 years ago doesn't change the hurt or loss you feel. He will be 50 in March.
They were on 2 separate bikes and a car came and witness
es saw the car run them off the road. No license plate was seen because it happened so fast.
I came up for air a year later. I was devastated. Depressed, couldn't and didn't want to go out and talk to anyone. Depressed, depressed......
My family keeps him alive through pictures, memorials, talking about he good memories, etc...and that I will NEVER EVER FORGET THIS HORRIBLE EVENT.
I have also realized that the most important thing is that when you are ready, his passing will incorporate itself into your life. It will come naturally. My life will never be the same, ever, ever! Your life will not either but time heals in the way that you are able to function better in life and do things that you used to do. when people say "you will get over it", ignore them. He is in my heart and soul and there isn't a day that goes by that I do not say a prayer for him. I strongly believe in heaven. I know they are both there.
I am lucky to have had such a wonderful , loving brother in my life for as long as I did and so are you to have a loving brother and sister in your life. They are in heaven, I believe.
Love an blessings to you! You are in my thoughts and prayers.