Members Bagfullofme Posted June 29, 2014 Members Report Share Posted June 29, 2014 Hi everyone! I'm Noa and I'm 17. Three months ago I lost my Mom. She had cancer and after three years she deciced to give up the fight. I was there when she died and afterwards I just sat next to her and held her hand. But you know the weird things was, the next I didn't feel sad or anything and I went to school like I always do. It felt surreal to me, like she would come back and that I would talk to her again. Also I felt fine and that made me scared because I was supposed to feel really sad, you know? But lately I've been having panic attacks and times that I don't want to do anything but I can't really talk about it to anyone. No one would understand and I feel like I bother them with it even though that's not true. So I wanted to find people who are in the same situation as I am and I've searched the internet for it but I just can't find anything. You find a lot for people whose child passed away. So basically I want to find people I can talk to so I don't feel alone anymore. (Btw I'm from Belgium and there aren't really forums for people like me. So I just thought I should talk here) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members BaileyB Posted June 29, 2014 Members Report Share Posted June 29, 2014 Hi Noa,I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. I too lost my mom to cancer. She was like your mom - she fought hard but in the end, decided that she could not fight anymore and she passed away very peacefully... I was also by her side.I can tell you that I felt somewhat similar after my mom died. Her illness has been so difficult, I felt relieved that she was not suffering and strangely enough, I felt relief that I was not suffering anymore as I watched her die. I remember thinking at her funeral, I should be more sad. But, the truth was... I was tired, I was numb, and I had cried so many tears during her illness, the fact that the suffering was over was a bit of a relief. Nothing was the same, but it was somehow very comforting and nice to get life back to normal... Go back to work, see my friends, etc... My sadness and grief changed over time... I think it's a bit protective, after you have suffered such a loss.I would encourage you however, to find someone you can talk to. You won't be bothering them... People want to help. So, whether it is a teacher, or a counsellor, or a family member... It is important. Your grief will reveal itself over time... It really does come in waves... And it is important to get it out and talk about your feelings. They are only feelings, they will pass as the waves of grief come and go, but it is important not to keep them inside because they will come in different ways... Like panic attacks. You are very wise to know this, which is why you've posted on this site. Please, know that people will help you if you ask... And it takes great strength to talk - it's not a weakness.Kind wishes and hugs to you sweetheart, to loose your mom, particularly at such a your age, is so difficult. This is a journey that you will walk for years... As you pass milestones in your life you will think of her, want her, and miss her. But know, there are others who feel this pain and can help you along when you need it. Take the greatest care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members mydeepestthoughts Posted July 6, 2014 Members Report Share Posted July 6, 2014 Hello Noa, I am so sorry to hear about your mom's passing. To lose a loved one to death is a tragic thing. I also lost my mother to cancer, and though I had many years that i spent with her; it still hurts when they are no longer there. A thing that you should remember is that we all grieve differently... The panic attacks that you are experiencing may be your way of grieving at this time. And to find someone to talk to is the viewpoint that the bible encourages us to follow.. Proverb 18:24 says "But there is a friend who sticks closer then a brother". I found that the one thing that brought me peace of mind is the hope from the bible. .. yes it give us a hope, and tells us that we have the promise of seeing our loved ones again. . Please read Acts 24:15 in part it says "there is going to be a resurrection". What does that mean to those who have lost loved ones? It gives us comfort. But can we really believe this? Is it unrealistic? Many have been taught that those who die go to heaven,but is that what the bible teach? To find out the answer to the question "can the dead really love again?, and to gain real comfort from the lost of your mother, please click on the following link http://www.jw.org/en/publications/books/dead-live-again-tract/dead-live-again/May you find comfort. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members foreveratheana Posted July 7, 2014 Members Report Share Posted July 7, 2014 Feel free to email me atheana.pollard1996@gmail.com I as well lost my mother and you can talk to me anytime you need someone to talk to Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Blackrock Posted July 10, 2014 Members Report Share Posted July 10, 2014 This site is a community and friends that you can share thoughts and express your pain. Pls feel free to write more to let it out and read others posting which will make you feel that you're not alone. Be strong Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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