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Loubee

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Hi all,

Our dad had a stroke about a week ago so we called 999. Paramedics came and these were his stats. Bp 147/111  154/118. Pulse 100bpm. Sp02 on air 94%. Resp rate 28pm. Dad is an alcoholic and refuses any treatment an will not go to hospital. Strok was left side and eye and mouth have dropped. Gp called the following day and said dad had 2 weeks. He is also incontinent but will not let us clean him. He has liquid oramorph for back pain and chest pain but this makes him sleep and whilst asleep he has cheyne stokes these ae 27 seconds of breathing and then 35 seconds of not breathing. During thi  time his hands and feet go black but then go fairly normal when he wakes up. The doctor has not been back since the first visit an a nurse has been in twice. The stroke happened 24/4 its now 03/05. Dad has had no food at all since last Thursday and is only having the odd mouthful of water.  My sister and feel like we have been completely left to our own devices.  Does anyone know how long this can go on for.

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ModKonnie

Loubee,

So, your dad had a stroke, has refused to let you take care of him, and the doctor hasn't been back since? Do you have hospice care? If not, please call the doctor back and ask them for guidance. I have no idea how long this could go on, but he needs to be cleaned up and made comfortable. I know he doesn't want your help, but it's because of humiliation. When my father was suffering through a similar situation, he cried, but we did what we had to do as fast as possible. My mother-in-law also was reluctant to let me help, but I just told her there was no choice and got her clean and comfortable. It's such a tough situation. Hospice can help you. I have no clue how long a person can last in this condition. Please call the doctor back. 

 

We will be here with you,

ModKonnie

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