Members Ashleyslost Posted March 27, 2016 Members Report Share Posted March 27, 2016 Hi everyone. I'm new to this, but I think this could help me. My dad just died almost two months ago unexpectedly. He died in his sleep. And I still can't believe it's real. I feel so lost and empty. I have no desire to do anything. I hate getting out of bed. I hate going to work. I have trouble eating. Im so tired all the time. Not just physically but also mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I try to be strong and put on a good face for my mom (she's not handling his death well) but it's just so hard. I don't know what to do, or how to handle this. I hope just writing on here will help. Please feel free to share your story with me. & Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading and for sharing with me. -Ashley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Lisa k Posted March 27, 2016 Members Report Share Posted March 27, 2016 Hi Ashley, welcome to this club we all wish we were not in. Sorry for your loss, it's so hard isn't it. Two months is quite fresh and raw so what you feel is quite normal. There is no easy way through grief , just one day at a time. It's good your there for your mum but don't feel you have to pretend to be okay, it's a tough journey for both of you. My mother died last July from lung cancer, I took care of her for nine months, went through chemo which didn't really help as it spread to her brain and nothing more could be done. She came home to die and it was the hardest five weeks ever knowing she only had a few weeks left and I would have to watch it. She was my best friend and I'm devastated she's gone as all I have left for family is my brother who is schizophrenic. Eight months on and I miss her more and more each day and still find it hard to believe I will never talk,see,or hear her again.I feel so lonely without her ,she's all I ever needed and now I must live however long I have on this planet without her. You've come to a good place where we all understand and help each other. Hugs Lisa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Dhines Posted March 28, 2016 Members Report Share Posted March 28, 2016 Hello Ashley, I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. Losing a love one is something we should not have to go through. I pray that you find comfort at this time from those around you and this in the forum. A scripture that comes to mind when I need comfort is Revelation 21; 3, 4. There wil be a time when we will not have to go through the pain of death, no more crying no more suffering. Jehovah (Psalms 83; 18) has promised this. Jehovah even promised us that there will be a resurrection. A wonderful chance for us to see our dead love ones again (John 5; 28, 29). I know that these eords will not take away the pain and hurt you feel but if you rely on Jehovah God he will give you endurance and the strength to cope at this difficult time. Please take a moment to read these scriptues and see if it they can give you hope and comfort. I hope you can enjoy the rest of your day. Have a wonderful day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Ava Posted March 30, 2016 Members Report Share Posted March 30, 2016 Hi Ashley, I read your post and feel I can relate at least somewhat... About three weeks ago my father died in his sleep as well. I have two younger siblings that I've been trying to be strong for, but I have had to return to college recently, leaving them at home. Although I have been trying to put on a brave face especially during the school days, there are moments when my mind is suddenly just flooded with so much...Dad. Everything reminds me of him. Even I remind myself of him. During these times when I get a wave of pain or longing for his voice, his hand to hold, his arms to cuddle up in, I have found it has been best to follow my grief where it leads me. If I need to cry, I cry. Maybe for hours. If I am wondering something I didn't get the chance to ask him, I ask out loud. I talk to him before I sleep and when I wake up. I ask him to continue to take care of me and stay with me. I know he will. I'm sure your father loved you very much, and I am sure he is with you even now. I know this knowledge or openness to an unseen presence is harder to put into practice than to talk about, but I would not say this if I didn't believe it: my dad has not left me, and even if you feel too emotionally damaged right now to notice or feel it, I will say with confidence that I do not think your father has left you either. A little while ago I had a dream that I was at the bottom of a grassy hill. When I looked up to the top of it I saw my dad sitting on a picnic table, slightly hunching over with his elbows resting on his knees and his hands interlocked together, wearing the same old jeans and grey t shirt I always saw him in. He was just looking out at the rest of the field...it was such a beautiful day, and he looked so peaceful and pensive, like he always did when he was enjoying the beautiful weather. I try my best to remember this. The dead are not sad. They are somewhere else, but wherever they are, I believe that it is a beautiful day there. Stay strong, and remember that true love between people is not something that ends, not even because of death. -Ava Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members withone Posted May 16, 2016 Members Report Share Posted May 16, 2016 I just lost my dad 2 months ago and taking it really hard. I find myself crying everynight. Waiting for his calls. I bought his a stuff dog right before he died and i find myself hugging it at night. I was his only girl so im taking this really hard. I really could some help on how to cope with this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members nutella1 Posted May 18, 2016 Members Report Share Posted May 18, 2016 I lost my dad 5 weeks ago. He was home alone and knocked on the neighbours door to ask them to ring an ambulance. 999 kept my neighbour on the phone for so long asking them questions they didn't know answers too when they got back to my dad he was dead in the street. I got a call off my cousin saying 'he's gone, he's at the morgue'. My dad hadn't been ill so this was a shock and still is. My dad was my best friend, only friend at most times. My heart hurts physically. My friends haven't been supportive. 5 weeks and my best friend hasn't called or came to see me she 'forgot'. Another friend was 'too busy'. Another friend saw his cousin 'deal well' with her dad's death so he thinks it's not that hard. I'm on my own, I was an only child and my dad my hero. I don't know how I'm going to deal with this pain it's not getting easier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Jbrin03s Posted May 18, 2016 Members Report Share Posted May 18, 2016 I lost my dad 18 mos ago unexpectedly due to a pulmonary embolism/heart attack. I had a hard time the first year. I was very close to him. I Didn't sleep, depressed and there was a lot going on. I have good days and bad. My stepmom walked out of our lives right after the funeral and things haven't been the same since. I recently have found out that she didn't take care of the estate...didn't pay for the funeral and she still hasn't put a grave marker on his plot. I have a brother who walked out on me and my dads life about 2 years before my dads death. He heavily dislikes my stepmom and is now threatening to move my dads body to a closer cemetery to him or buying my dads plot out from underneath my stepmom and putting a stone on. I've been in so much distress from all this that I'm not sleeping and I'm crying all the time. I miss my dad and he would be so sad to see all this going on. I feel so hopeless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Shy Posted May 18, 2016 Members Report Share Posted May 18, 2016 On 27 March 2016 at 10:10 AM, Ashleyslost said: Hi everyone. I'm new to this, but I think this could help me. My dad just died almost two months ago unexpectedly. He died in his sleep. And I still can't believe it's real. I feel so lost and empty. I have no desire to do anything. I hate getting out of bed. I hate going to work. I have trouble eating. Im so tired all the time. Not just physically but also mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I try to be strong and put on a good face for my mom (she's not handling his death well) but it's just so hard. I don't know what to do, or how to handle this. I hope just writing on here will help. Please feel free to share your story with me. & Any tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading and for sharing with me. -Ashley Hey ashley.. I can understand how u feel .. Same is the case with me .. I lost my dad last month in a car accident .. I saw my dad dying infront of my eyes .. And I couldn't do anything I was so helpless .. It's the worst thing a daughter could ever see .. I can understand exactly how u feel .. It just feels like this is all a dream and I wanna get up from it and just hug my dadda.. I miss him so much .. The fact that I'm not alone helps a lot .. And I know how much it matters if someone's replies to our struggle post .. Just so u know .. I'm here .. I'm face the same .. I can feel the same .. Here for u .. I hope this helps u in some way .. Take care : ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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