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i reposted it as i was logged in.


**I'm really just writing this to vent and hopefully get some feedback on how to handle everything.....


I'm 17 and three months from yesterday i lost the best friend that i've had since i was five to an overdosage of a drug. It was honestly the hardest thing i have ever had to go through in my entire life! I felt like my entire life was just torn apart in just a matter of a few days. We were best friends for over ten years and it was like i had to restart my whole life without her. And even before her death i had many problems with an alcohol and drug abuser as a father. It was like she was the only one that understood. And now i lost her to a stupid drug that she barley started taking and Since she was totally against it up until the last two months she was alive, which was when she got involved in all of the horrible things. I mean it was all just such a shock that she passed away on a drug that she hated! Its just hard to understand. Its been three months and i'm still have an extremely hard time coping with everything. I mean at first i wasn't eating or sleeping until my friends made me eat and mom tried to make me sleep. But i still don't feel any different from the day that i found out, til now. I mean so many people say things will get better, things are going to get easier. But the way i see it is that things don't really get better or easier. In fact to me, the only thing that gets easier is being able to hide the true emotions you feel. I don't really know how to handle such a big lose in my life, but in writing this i hope to get some advice or maybe some inspiration to help me with everything. I mean just by reading these blogs i see that you've all mostly gone through what i'm going through, and i just wanted to know.....What do you do? How do you cope with such a huge lose?


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Sophie, I am so so sorry for the loss of your friend. unfortunately it is true, it takes time to heal the wounds of loss, 3 months is still so recent for you. I think you are coping well, you are venting out. It is healing to talk about your friend. Your story touched me because I have daughters around your age, you are not alone and i hope you the  best.

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