Members itstoohard Posted July 2, 2008 Members Report Share Posted July 2, 2008 My father in law was diagnosed with Stage 4 inoperable Pancreatic Cancer in January. He has been on an extremely aggresive protocol of chemo since February, and though some progress has been made, the side effects have left him in very bad shape. His body is filling with fluid that needs to be drained regularly, he can't hold food down, and his muscle mass has deterioriated (due to be weakened and in bed for the last few weeks) to the point where we've been told his chances of getting out of bed are slim. He just spent about 2 weeks in the hospital, receiving IV fluids and other treatments for the side effects of the chemo. He was just moved to a rehabilitation center to try to regain some strength, but he is so weak and depressed that he does not want to go on. He asked for his wife, my husband, and his siblings to visit him last night, and told them he was done, did not want to live anymore, and asked that they help him to euthanize himself. Everyone told him no, absolutely not...The past few months have been a roller coaster ride, but these recent weeks have been totally insane. I feel completely powerless and wish there was more I could do to help my husband and his family. My mother in law in particular has endured so much turmoil and pain as this has gone on. I'm terrified at the prospect that we are very likely coming to the end of this horrible battle. I know my father in law is in a great deal of pain and very depressed, but it is difficult to just let him go, knowing that everything that is going wrong with him right now can be overcome. He does not eat, barely tries to even, and if he were able to it would make a world of difference. At this point the rehab facility wants to send him home, but that is not an option because even under home care he could potentially have access to medications and is likely to purposely OD. He can't go to hospice because as far as the doctors are concerned he is not dying. His only choice is to start eating, allow his meds to be administered, and work as hard as he can to improve his condition. But how do you tell someone who is suffering so much and has lost so much of their dignity that their life is worth fighting for? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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