Members eternalcandle123 Posted October 7, 2013 Members Report Share Posted October 7, 2013 Hi, I lost my daughter Olivia (Liv) a month before her 10th birthday, after she was in a horrific car/truck crash with my eldest daughter (then aged 11) and my son (then aged 7). The driver of the car they were in fell asleep at the wheel and hit a fuel tanker head on, both going 110kph on the freeway when they hit each other. All three of my (four) kids were in really bad shape but Olivia was the worst- as well as receiving extensive & life threatening injuries to her body, her massive brain injury meant she couldn't survive at all. Her life support was turned off on the morning after the crash.Although its been more than 3 years since we lost her, it still feels so recent and raw. My eldest daughter and son were awake when they hit the truck and have horrible memories hounding them. We all struggle with flashbacks of what we went through that night, the next day (when we said goodbye to Liv) and the aftermath. I'm sure many of you know what I'm talking about. We're trying to process Liv's passing, as well as the trauma we all went through.It's hard to parent my PTSD/depression/grief/anxiety kids, when I have the same problems myself. My eldest daughter is now 15, my son is 11 and my youngest daughter (who wasn't in the crash) is 7. Each of them deal/don't deal with their feelings etc in different ways and I just feel like I'm letting them down all the time as I don't know how to help them, or I get so lost in my own grief I can't function at all. I used to blog my feelings and that really helped me get through the first 2 years, but I don't have it in me right now. But I do want to talk to people who understand. We moved to a new state a year ago and I still don't have any friends here, because my PTSD and grief make it too hard for me to get to know other people, or for them get to know me.So I'm here to connect with other parents who understand what I'm going through so we can support each other and I won't feel so alone xxxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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