Members luv4potter Posted September 20, 2013 Members Report Share Posted September 20, 2013 Good evening, I'm hoping to find some answers to my questions, this may be a long thread so please bear with me! Hi, I'm Faydra! I"m 27 years old and have dealt with a lot in my life and now I just need some perspective on things. When I was 17 i had kidney issues with then lead to a kidney transplant from my sister later that year. Because of my immune system I was allowed to stay at home during college, my mom was kind enough to let me stay at home and not work, she then became ill and she was diagnosed with cancer. I become very supportive of my mom and learned how to give her medication shots, and take care of her. She never pushed me out of the "nest" so to speak until I was ready. However in 2011 I became very ill myself and because of the medications I was taking for my immune system I developed stage four cancer. My mom was there with me through every chemo treatment, and all the doctor's tests. We even began seeing the same oncologist. Because of the sickness I have dealt with in my life I never really learned how to drive either. My mom started to get weaker this year and sadly she passed away from multiple system atrophy. I have been grieving pretty hard because I'm a very emotional individual. On the other side of things my sister has gone with me to the gravesite and together our relationship as sisters has become stronger.About a week ago I was on vacation visiting my mother's side of the family (her mother and her sister) my dad informed me that he has made the decision to move to Ohio. My heart believes that he still hasn't grieved properly, but I'm not one to say either what is right or what is wrong for me. He has said that he'll take me to visit mom's grave whenever I'd like to but he hasn't actually gone since the funeral. However this puts me in quite a pickle. I have to learn to drive but I'm not comfortable on the road yet, and because I've been quite sick I haven't had time to get a proper job, nor an income. I've discussed with my dad my fears for the future and he told me that there's nothing for him in Colorado (where we live) anymore, and it's time that I venture out on my own.I'm very scared and emotional right now because I obviously can't make him stay, but I feel like I'm losing both my parents. I feel like this is going all to fast and we are almost six months out for her death. I'm still dealing with major medical issues myself and I don't see myself following my father to Ohio. So if anyone has been in a similar situation or has any kind words or advice I would very much appreciate. It's very nice to meet you all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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