Members doug42 Posted April 15, 2008 Members Report Share Posted April 15, 2008 hi, my name is doug...i lost my girlfriend in feb..2004..it was a sudden loss, i never got to say good-by, or i love you..when she died i went to every group and read alot of books to try and deal with everything..i thought that i would be alone for ever and that is something that i did not want..about a year and a half ago, i met a wonderful woman who was widowed in june 2005..we instantly felt a connection, we were in love .everything was so easy for us..we used to say that our spouses set us up..she is my gift from heven for sure..about 6 weeks ago she started to get quiet and withdrawn. i asked if everything was ok and she would say yes, dont worry about us, we are ok..a few days later she called me and sayed that it was not going to work, its over..i pressed more and she told me she missed her husband..i felt so bad..she said that she just wanted to be left alone for a while, and she would call me..i am feeling so bad for not seeing it sooner. i thought that i new everything about grief, i guess that i did not. she is not one to express her feelings like i do, i think that she is grieving for her husband, i totally understand. i guess i feel a little hurt that she did not come to me..i have been going to a widowers group that last few weeks and all of the woman say that she might be feeling guilty.. she watched her husband die for 2 years, and had to keep it togeather for her wonderful son..i think about her every minute, her whole family has shown me so much love, i miss them so much..we were planning on growing old togeather..i love her to much so i am letting her have her time alone but its so hard not to pick up the phone and call her..i miss telling her i love her and the way she loved me..is this common, can someone give me some insight..i cant give up on us..i wont..i just feel so bad..i know that everyone grievs in thier own way..i just keep praying for her every day..i just wish that i could be there for her..i love her so much.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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