Members helffdj Posted October 10, 2012 Members Report Share Posted October 10, 2012 I lost my Mom last week. She was my best friend. I moved in with her and cared for her for the last month. Now that she's gone I feel incomplete. Like I've lost my purpose. Is anyone else feeling the same way?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Rms1977 Posted October 10, 2012 Members Report Share Posted October 10, 2012 Yes, I feel this same way! My mother passed away 3 weeks ago today. I have beer had a broken heart until now. One thing that had helped me, is this site. Knowing that others can relate to my pain helps. It gives me hope. I'm so sorry to hear of your Mothers passing. Prayers to you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members BreathofAngel Posted October 10, 2012 Members Report Share Posted October 10, 2012 I lost my Mom last week. She was my best friend. I moved in with her and cared for her for the last month. Now that she's gone I feel incomplete. Like I've lost my purpose. Is anyone else feeling the same way??Dearest (((((helffdj))))),I am so very sorry for the physical passing of your Mother, dearheart, and I offer my sincere condolences. Please know that we are here for you to offer comfort, hope, and love to you!What you are feeling is right in line with what others feel. We all go through this period and it is one that differs, time wise, for each and every individual. It's the extreme dis-connection that one feels when the person who brought you into this world is no longer physically there that makes one feel as they do. Yet, spiritually speaking, your Mother is still with you and will always be! Consider that we are composed of a physical body that is prone to becoming ill, growing old, and then expiring. All of us have a physical body. But what keeps that physical body animated? Our spirit and our soul! Therefore, since the physical body ceases to exist, the spirit is released and free to continue with its spiritual life's journey with new learning lessons in a dimension from whence it first came. A person who has been released by God from a physical body continues living in their Spiritual body and as such is able to retain their memory, personality, way of being, etc. though they are not able to be seen and heard for various reasons. So, the moral of all of this is don't feel alone! God has remembered your Mom because it was her time of special remembrance and God makes no mistakes. He loves her and is caring for her in her new life as He will with you too when you get there!And please know that Love absolutely continues as there is absolutely no separation even through one's passing. Love is Eternal! And in time, don't be surprised if you find things that lead you to see that your Mom is still with you!May you be blessed, protected, and given the Strength and Courage, dearheart, to continue with the life that God has richly blessed you with.--------------------------------------------------If you could hold the ocean in your arms, it still could not compare with the vastness of love a Mother has in her heart for her child. -- BreathofAngel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Alexander Risten Posted October 11, 2012 Members Report Share Posted October 11, 2012 I lost my Mom last week. She was my best friend. I moved in with her and cared for her for the last month. Now that she's gone I feel incomplete. Like I've lost my purpose. Is anyone else feeling the same way??I am truly sorry for your loss. The responsibility of looking after a loved one leaves a big hole after death. Even though you feel like you have lost your purpose, your purpose is only beginning now. Your purpose is to live on in the memory of your mother. She made you who you are, so that you can keep living when she is gone. It is a harsh reality, but it is the circle of life. Your mother's purpose (after having you as her child) was to raise an adult who can survive and thrive in this world. I do not know your mother or you, but I believe she did a great job. Although you had a role in looking after her the last month of her life, that was not your primary purpose. Your mother spent countless hours nurturing you, learning you and loving you to help you develop into someone who would live on after her. Perhaps it could help if you look at this from another perspective: your mother fulfilled her part... now you should complete her purpose by realizing that the way you live now honor her memory more than words ever can. Your purpose is to live on... but you should allow yourself time to grieve first. The sadness and loss you experience is normal. You lost a very important person and your road to recovery is only starting. May you find peace and a new sense of purpose in time! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Gina Posted October 13, 2012 Members Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 My mom and I were super close . I lost her on September 13th a month ago today. She was more than my mom she was my best friend. When my dad got sick I was only 11 yrs old and my mom took care of my dad and I took are of her. It had always been that way . I feel empty and have a broken heart. I know exactly how you feel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members helffdj Posted October 14, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted October 14, 2012 My mom and I were super close . I lost her on September 13th a month ago today. She was more than my mom she was my best friend. When my dad got sick I was only 11 yrs old and my mom took care of my dad and I took are of her. It had always been that way . I feel empty and have a broken heart. I know exactly how you feelGina, I'm sorry to hear about your Mom. My heart is heavy for you. Please think of me and know that you are not alone.helffdj Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members helffdj Posted October 15, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 Yes, I feel this same way! My mother passed away 3 weeks ago today. I have beer had a broken heart until now. One thing that had helped me, is this site. Knowing that others can relate to my pain helps. It gives me hope. I'm so sorry to hear of your Mothers passing. Prayers to you!Rms, I'm so sorry we have this loss in common. Thank you for writing and sending your prayers.helffdj Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members star2000 Posted October 15, 2012 Members Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 Im so sorry for your loss. It has been 2 weeks today since my mother went to Heaven. It is honestly hard to believe it has been that long. I also was my mothers caregiver for the last month of her life. I didnt realize it would be that short of a time. My mother was bedridden and so I would clean her room, assist her with anything she needed, we would talk, and play games together on fb. She told me many of times that she never expected for me to have to care for her but that I did a wonderful job. I havent been back to work yet but finally called the guy last week to say I was ready when they find someone new for me to care for. Its not that I really want to go back to work ever but I know my mom wouldnt want me to stop doing what I do and she would also want me to take good care of her 2 grandsons. That I think is going to be the hardest thing for me now is when my sons reach different goals throughout their lives and she isnt there to celebrate. My 2 boys was the only grandchildren and she adored them. She was 16 when she had me and was also my best friend. My heart breaks each day without her and I know you are going through the same. The only thing we can do is wake up and make ourselves get out of bed and try to get something done even if it is vaccuming, or grocery shopping, or whatever just little accomplishments. I am here for you if you ever need someone to talk to. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members kristaleighbird Posted October 15, 2012 Members Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 I feel exactly the same way. My dad passed in June. His death was very sudden and unexpected. I tell my husband all the time that I just feel broken. I feel lost and like part of me is gone. I am so much who I am because of my dad. Without him, I feel, like you said, incomplete. You're definitely not alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members helffdj Posted October 15, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 Im so sorry for your loss. It has been 2 weeks today since my mother went to Heaven. It is honestly hard to believe it has been that long. I also was my mothers caregiver for the last month of her life. I didnt realize it would be that short of a time. My mother was bedridden and so I would clean her room, assist her with anything she needed, we would talk, and play games together on fb. She told me many of times that she never expected for me to have to care for her but that I did a wonderful job. I havent been back to work yet but finally called the guy last week to say I was ready when they find someone new for me to care for. Its not that I really want to go back to work ever but I know my mom wouldnt want me to stop doing what I do and she would also want me to take good care of her 2 grandsons. That I think is going to be the hardest thing for me now is when my sons reach different goals throughout their lives and she isnt there to celebrate. My 2 boys was the only grandchildren and she adored them. She was 16 when she had me and was also my best friend. My heart breaks each day without her and I know you are going through the same. The only thing we can do is wake up and make ourselves get out of bed and try to get something done even if it is vaccuming, or grocery shopping, or whatever just little accomplishments. I am here for you if you ever need someone to talk to. My thoughts and prayers are with you.Star, My mom died on the same day at 8:38 am!helffdj Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members helffdj Posted October 15, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 I am truly sorry for your loss. The responsibility of looking after a loved one leaves a big hole after death. Even though you feel like you have lost your purpose, your purpose is only beginning now. Your purpose is to live on in the memory of your mother. She made you who you are, so that you can keep living when she is gone. It is a harsh reality, but it is the circle of life. Your mother's purpose (after having you as her child) was to raise an adult who can survive and thrive in this world. I do not know your mother or you, but I believe she did a great job. Although you had a role in looking after her the last month of her life, that was not your primary purpose. Your mother spent countless hours nurturing you, learning you and loving you to help you develop into someone who would live on after her. Perhaps it could help if you look at this from another perspective: your mother fulfilled her part... now you should complete her purpose by realizing that the way you live now honor her memory more than words ever can. Your purpose is to live on... but you should allow yourself time to grieve first. The sadness and loss you experience is normal. You lost a very important person and your road to recovery is only starting. May you find peace and a new sense of purpose in time!Thank you for writing to me. I will try my best to honor Mom's memory in the way you have suggested.helffdj Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members helffdj Posted October 15, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 Dearest (((((helffdj))))),I am so very sorry for the physical passing of your Mother, dearheart, and I offer my sincere condolences. Please know that we are here for you to offer comfort, hope, and love to you!What you are feeling is right in line with what others feel. We all go through this period and it is one that differs, time wise, for each and every individual. It's the extreme dis-connection that one feels when the person who brought you into this world is no longer physically there that makes one feel as they do. Yet, spiritually speaking, your Mother is still with you and will always be! Consider that we are composed of a physical body that is prone to becoming ill, growing old, and then expiring. All of us have a physical body. But what keeps that physical body animated? Our spirit and our soul! Therefore, since the physical body ceases to exist, the spirit is released and free to continue with its spiritual life's journey with new learning lessons in a dimension from whence it first came. A person who has been released by God from a physical body continues living in their Spiritual body and as such is able to retain their memory, personality, way of being, etc. though they are not able to be seen and heard for various reasons. So, the moral of all of this is don't feel alone! God has remembered your Mom because it was her time of special remembrance and God makes no mistakes. He loves her and is caring for her in her new life as He will with you too when you get there!And please know that Love absolutely continues as there is absolutely no separation even through one's passing. Love is Eternal! And in time, don't be surprised if you find things that lead you to see that your Mom is still with you!May you be blessed, protected, and given the Strength and Courage, dearheart, to continue with the life that God has richly blessed you with.--------------------------------------------------If you could hold the ocean in your arms, it still could not compare with the vastness of love a Mother has in her heart for her child. -- BreathofAngel Thank you for replying to my post. It gave me comfort at a time when I really needed it.helffdj Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members helffdj Posted October 15, 2012 Author Members Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 I feel exactly the same way. My dad passed in June. His death was very sudden and unexpected. I tell my husband all the time that I just feel broken. I feel lost and like part of me is gone. I am so much who I am because of my dad. Without him, I feel, like you said, incomplete. You're definitely not alone. Krista,I'm so sorry about your Dad. I guess we are members of the same sad club.helffdj Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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