Will you get married again ?

[Brazil Man]

Since my wife has deceased I decided not to get married again nor have a girlfriend for the rest of my life ( I am 58 and live with my parents). And about you friends... which are you plans and how old are you ? I already lived more than 6 years without her.

[Gail 8588]

I feel the same, but I am quite a bit older than you. I am nearly 70.

I can certainly understand that others do look for a new relationship, as it is quite lonely at times.   

While you have your parents with you, I imagine that helps with providing some companionship/ conversation etc.  It is nice to have people around who knew our spouses, so we can share memories with them.  I also expect that living with your elderly parents keeps you busy with many responsibilities.

I am content with being single for the rest of my life.  I do my best to take care of myself.  I am blessed to have my son and his children nearby.

[KayC]

Highly unlikely.  I'll be here shoveling snow and going through fire evacuations the rest of my life I'm sure. I don't do online dating and don't meet anyone and honestly, George and I were each other's person.  Lived alone nearly 20 years and I'm 72.

[foreverhis]

I was turning 60 when John died. I couldn’t envision a life without him and certainly not with someone else. I still feel that way more than 6 years later.

I have managed to find a place in life where I am content enough with my small family, dear friends (locally and a few hours away), and my cat Cosi. The truth is that I don’t want to live with someone else because I don’t want to have to consider someone else’s needs or wants.

I still love John and, of course, always will. There’s room in my heart for friends and family, but not for a romantic partner.

[widower2]

What is this "again" you speak of   We were never married for various reasons, but were together longer than the average marriage lasts. So for me the question is simply are you interested in a serious relationship again and the answer is yes...I've had way too much being alone in my life as it is and always hated it as I do now...but when I think of dating again I cringe. It's always been a hideous process IMO, but now? I dunno. Maybe. Maybe not. I'm not an easy sell frankly. 

[Brazil Man]

6 hours ago, widower2 said:

What is this "again"

Sorry, English is not my native language. What I just meant is that I will never have any kind of romantic relationship anymore and it includes getting marriage.
That title of the message can be misundestood. If you want, feel free to edit the title for me.

[KayC]

Your English is fine.

[Roxeanne]

I'd like to find a companion, more than a new partner, in my life...someone to share life with!  I'm afraid i have not the patience and the will to build a new love relantioship...not to mention that every new person in my life is compared  with my love Giorgio and i lose immediately interest in them...

Hope that someday that 'magical thing' happened with him , doing it again...

Years pass by...and i'm not young anymore...so as an Italian singer said well:

"I desideri non invecchiano quasi mai con l'eta'"

(Desires hardly ever get old with the age)

So...never say never !

 

 

[KayC]

My friends Bob and Beth taught me that. She was 84 and met and married the love of her life (met at our church).  He was widowed (cancer) twice before her.  Beth told him to slow it down in the beginning and he told her, "Lady, at my age you don't have TIME to slow it down!"  She eventually got cancer and he cared for her until she died, then he also got it and his kids took care of him.  But for those last several years of their life, they didn't miss anything and they were so happy together!  So until I'm 84 and still nothing on the horizon, well, never say never!

And Roxeanne, I doubt you're as old as I am!

[Brazil Man]

4 hours ago, KayC said:

Your English is fine.

Thank you @KayC. You are very kind.

[KayC]

23 hours ago, KayC said:

I'll be here shoveling snow and going through fire evacuations the rest of my life I'm sure.

Haha! Who wouldn't want anyone like that! Six months shoveling snow, three months fire/smoke/evacuations, do I know how to sell myself or what!

 

[Roxeanne]

1 hour ago, KayC said:

And Roxeanne, I doubt you're as old as I am!

Kay ...maybe i'm few years younger than you...but we are of the same generation! Same feelings on everything....

[widower2]

15 hours ago, Brazil Man said:

Sorry, English is not my native language. What I just meant is that I will never have any kind of romantic relationship anymore and it includes getting marriage.
That title of the message can be misundestood. If you want, feel free to edit the title for me.

It's, fine I was just kidding!

[ShawnC]

 I have been in love three times in my life, after my first marriage failed I didn't think it would ever happen again; and then I met my sweet Suzy and we had a wonderful life full of love. I am not sure what the future holds but sometimes there is magic and I am open to that. It would be very nice to have someone to have some joy with in that special way only people in love can(get your mind off sex) I mean the sharing of inside jokes and meals and secrets and the gentle touch only a lover can give. Sorry I am crying now I miss my wife. But God if you are listening please take this as a prayer. Amen.

[Brazil Man]

1 hour ago, ShawnC said:

But God if you are listening please take this as a prayer. Amen.

Amen, Brother.

[Bee92]

I have been married once before. I swore up and down I would never get married again, that is until I met my fiance/husband. He never gave up on asking me to marry him. He really was a stand up guy. 
I need companionship and did get in a relationship 6 months after his passing, with someone who lost his fiance/wife just a few months after I lost my love. 
I will say I have an issue with comparing my boyfriend to my past fiance/husband, knowing he will never be him. Boyfriend will do things and my brain says he wouldn’t have done that. Or he would have done that and why are you not. 
No one can never take that place in the heart. I’m over here trying to see the light through the cracks of my broken heart. He treated me so amazing and I could read him so well as he could read me. I miss him so much. Some days I don’t want to be around anyone and I want to run away knowing my love is never coming back to me in this lifetime.