Members Popular Post Brazil Man Posted October 29 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted October 29 After almots 7 years I think I overcame grief. But at the same time my heart is empty. It' looks like love is gone with grief. But I still want to be with her in Heaven. Has anyonne here felt such a thing ? 4 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post LMR Posted October 29 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted October 29 I am into my 5th year now. I still have days when I cry a lot and I miss him so much but at those times when I might be considered to be having a 'good' day I am actually just empty, like I have no emotions left. I'm not sure that we ever really overcome grief, we just hide it away, from others and sometimes from ourselves. 4 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post WithoutHer Posted October 29 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted October 29 3 hours ago, Brazil Man said: After almots 7 years I think I overcame grief. But at the same time my heart is empty. It' looks like love is gone with grief. But I still want to be with her in Heaven. Has anyonne here felt such a thing ? I haven't made it to year two yet. But I can't imagine that thought of Grief is love with no place to go 💔 never being a part of me for the rest of my days. 4 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Popular Post KayC Posted October 29 Moderators Popular Post Report Share Posted October 29 It's been 19 1/3 years and I still love him as I did the day he died. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post RichS Posted October 30 Members Popular Post Report Share Posted October 30 9 hours ago, LMR said: I'm not sure that we ever really overcome grief, we just hide it away, from others and sometimes from ourselves. I'm 26 months into this and sometimes I wonder how much progress I've really made. I function, but "going through the motions" seems to be how I cope. I guess it's better than staying in bed all day; which I never do. Others further along their grief journey say that you never really get over it; which I can understand. And yes I try to do a good job of putting on a good face for others (even being humorous at times); and in a sense that takes my mind off of my grief. In the end though, reality sets in; and in a sense that is a good thing because at least I've accepted what happened to my son and I. You can't be happy about it but at least I'm not living in a fantasy world; which unfortunately some people fall into (Complicated Grief??). Based on the responses in this thread, I guess we're all a "Work In Progress" to various degrees. 4 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted October 30 Moderators Report Share Posted October 30 It took a lot of us about five years just to process our grief, the rest we learn to live with. Not like, but live with. You are where you can expect to be, this is such a snail's pace process! And remember we are all unique and vary with our timelines. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted October 30 Members Report Share Posted October 30 Thanks, Kay. You pretty much explained how I'm feeling these days. If there's one good thing that came out of your grief it's that your years of dealing with it are an example of what we may expect on this journey. THANKS COACH!! 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators KayC Posted October 30 Moderators Report Share Posted October 30 Alot of it is how many years I've spent on grief forums, led by a grief counselor that read each and every post and responded as needed...she is retiring the site Jan. 1 though due to her age. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators widower2 Posted November 1 Moderators Report Share Posted November 1 On 10/29/2024 at 11:28 AM, Brazil Man said: After almots 7 years I think I overcame grief. But at the same time my heart is empty. It' looks like love is gone with grief. But I still want to be with her in Heaven. Has anyonne here felt such a thing ? Love and pain have no direct correlation, i.e. just because you are in less pain doesn't mean you love them any less. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post DWS Posted Monday at 12:39 PM Members Popular Post Report Share Posted Monday at 12:39 PM On 10/29/2024 at 3:11 PM, WithoutHer said: But I can't imagine that thought of Grief is love with no place to go 💔 never being a part of me for the rest of my days. I'm finding this to be my greatest struggle now. Continuing on with my life in a functioning, normal-like manner may make it appear that I'm "over it". It sometimes can even fool me at times however, I am aware that I have this continual daily inner dialogue happening which equates to me still processing. Still trying to understand why he's gone and why I'm now alone. I see my life now in two phases: the large span of time before my loss/grief and the time after. Before Tom's death, I had all other things and dramas in life cluttering my thoughts but processing this vastly significant loss wasn't one of them. In this second phase of my life, the loss is a central part of my being and that has everything to do with love. 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members Popular Post LMR Posted Monday at 02:35 PM Members Popular Post Report Share Posted Monday at 02:35 PM I too am still struggling. Searching for answers that are never going to come. This morning I found it really difficult to get up. I just couldn't see the point. I feel like I'm a waste of space. I never felt that way before. I seem to have reached a plateau. I'm beyond the initial fog but with nowhere to go. No future that I'm remotely interested in. No way that I can see of breaking through the pain and emptiness. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted Monday at 03:51 PM Members Report Share Posted Monday at 03:51 PM I share the same pain that all of you are feeling. We should all take some comfort that we have this board and each other to share our feelings with. I'm guessing not all of us have the same bad days; so those of who are having a decent day are here to comfort those who are not. We can take comfort in that. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Popular Post KayC Posted Monday at 04:29 PM Moderators Popular Post Report Share Posted Monday at 04:29 PM What does that mean, love with no place to go?! Mine goes the same place it always did, to my George. Somehow I think he knows that. I know it's not in the same tangible form it used to be, we can no longer physically touch but I still talk to him and I knew him well enough to imagine his answers. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted Tuesday at 12:30 AM Members Report Share Posted Tuesday at 12:30 AM 7 hours ago, KayC said: Mine goes the same place it always did, to my George. Somehow I think he knows that. I know it's not in the same tangible form it used to be, we can no longer physically touch but I still talk to him and I knew him well enough to imagine his answers. Kay: I know you've got years on me on the grieving journey. My only hope is that I someday come closer to how you're handling your grief right now. 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ShawnC Posted Tuesday at 05:40 PM Members Report Share Posted Tuesday at 05:40 PM I always come back to , what would she want for me ? Why did she love me? I must retain that of myself to move forward with a meaningful life and be someone she could love and be proud of. There is some competing emotions that I struggle with because continuing on with life means continuing on with our her. I find it very painful. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members RichS Posted Tuesday at 05:46 PM Members Report Share Posted Tuesday at 05:46 PM 4 minutes ago, ShawnC said: I always come back to , what would she want for me ? Why did she love me? I must retain that of myself to move forward with a meaningful life and be someone she could love and be proud of. There is some competing emotions that I struggle with because continuing on with life means continuing on with our her. I find it very painful. Shawn: I'm also on the same path as you everyday. It's a struggle, I don't like it, but I have to continue to try. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Members ShawnC Posted Thursday at 01:04 PM Members Report Share Posted Thursday at 01:04 PM Back to that horrible,horrible truth. Life goes on. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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