Crushed by a dream

[LMR]

I know that I replied to Brazil man a while back in his anger thread that I recognized that dreams have no basis in fact so we shouldn't dwell on them. I haven't changed my mind but I have been sorely tested this morning.

The dream I had was an alternative outcome to his hospital stay! He had come home. A different house though, but we were talking with a friend about getting the music set up and he asked us where this "trolley" had come from. We told him it was what he came home on from hospital as he still couldn't walk. 

That's where I woke up and burst into tears. Still feeling weepy an hour later.

[KayC]

I am so sorry.  Sometimes dreams are something we saw or thought of during the day, bits and fragments, concerns of ours, remembrances, sometimes they are prolific, sometimes seeming without basis.

I'm sorry you had such a hard hitting one.

[DWS]

I find dreams are incredible things. When we put our poor selves to rest and finally let everything go for the day, it's the time for our minds to go play with whatever is stored up there. I've come to the conclusion that dreams allow the playing out of the worries and frightening scenarios that we might imagine when we're awake but stop ourselves going much further into that darkness. While we're asleep, the unconscious mind takes power. My crazy, WTF dreams can certainly disturb me first thing in the morning but as the day progresses, I then find myself wondering and processing where those thoughts came from and a lot of times, I feel immense relief that it was only a dream. 

[AJ4]

I think dreams are often our mind's way of working through problems, questions, feelings.  Our hopes, our fears, things that we hide from ourselves during the day, can come into dreams and get processed.   

[KayC]

I think you're right.

[WithoutHer]

I've only had dreams of Vickie viewed from afar as if she's with a group, her family?, in conversation. Most of my dreams are of being at work after almost 4 years of retirement. I'm in places I've never seen with mostly people I don't know. Occasionally a known coworker will show up. They all have one thing in common. I'm working QA/QC and feuding with production managers upper management and even the company president. I won most of those battles in real life. And the ones I lost the president had to sign off on the shipment and I would say this is all on you. There were times it came back and bit them hard. And they were forced to suck it up when I said I told you so.

But what is my mind working on through these dreams? I have no thoughts of those days anymore and am glad with each day those days are over. I just wish Vickie were here so I could continue spending them with her.

Sigh 😕 

[DWS]

23 hours ago, WithoutHer said:

But what is my mind working on through these dreams? I have no thoughts of those days anymore and am glad with each day those days are over. I just wish Vickie were here so I could continue spending them with her.

Sigh 😕 

I'm astounded at your dreams because I too have so many similar ones surrounding my past workplace. In all of them, I'm struggling with the company owner and either finding solace with my co-workers or battling them. Sometimes I'm just what the company needed and other times, I'm having to prove myself....which was basically life for me in the past and the reasons why I chose self-employment. It was also my partner Tom's reason and why we meshed so well.

This is why the subject of our dreams is fascinating within our time of grief. I think it's those moments during our sleep when our minds can fully throw out all that we've been through in our lives and do its hand at helping us process our loss. It sorta whips up this stuff from our past to say to us "remember that time when you..."  Our dreams bring up things from our past that we may have forgotten. A lot of times it can help give me a new perspective or may get me out of a current funk and get me back to a more comfortable perspective. 

[DMB]

I was never in my life bothered by dreams.  Never paid attention to them.  Could never remember them anyway.  Now, it's why I drink wine at night so I can stay asleep and not remember them.  The off-wine nights are when I remember them, and I hate it.  I know it's just a dream, but I have recurring ones, like being lost.  I get that one a lot.  A few nights ago, me and my kids were at a table at a function, and someone walked in was very polite but then said they will be coming after my sister.  About a post she made after the election.  Sister died in late August, so I'm really bothered by this.  Right after she died, I dreamt of dead horses on the road. Lately I've also been seeing long gone loved ones, and that worries me because I think maybe it's getting time for them to come fetch me.

Mostly, if I do recall certain details of a dream, it is a reflection of my conscious day events like something I saw on TV, or read, or spoke to someone about. I'll admit though, the sub-conscious is a scary place for me these days/nights. 

[WithoutHer]

3 hours ago, DMB said:

I was never in my life bothered by dreams.  Never paid attention to them.  Could never remember them anyway.  Now, it's why I drink wine at night so I can stay asleep and not remember them.  The off-wine nights are when I remember them, and I hate it.  I know it's just a dream, but I have recurring ones, like being lost.  I get that one a lot.  A few nights ago, me and my kids were at a table at a function, and someone walked in was very polite but then said they will be coming after my sister.  About a post she made after the election.  Sister died in late August, so I'm really bothered by this.  Right after she died, I dreamt of dead horses on the road. Lately I've also been seeing long gone loved ones, and that worries me because I think maybe it's getting time for them to come fetch me.

Mostly, if I do recall certain details of a dream, it is a reflection of my conscious day events like something I saw on TV, or read, or spoke to someone about. I'll admit though, the sub-conscious is a scary place for me these days/nights. 

I had the thought in my previous post and didn't mention it. I also have dreams of being lost. It not lost as in not knowing where I am but not being able to find my way back to where I started. Sometimes it's walking around a large office complex. Other times it's like a never ending shopping mall with multiple floors and there's access from one store to another within the stores.

It's all so baffling and confusing. I always wake up when I've come to someplace totally unrelated to the places I was trying to navigate.