80s,90s etc

[Hugh Bathurst]

He should have been in his 80s, 90s etc! Not 50s!

[lilstarsmum]

I’m sorry for your loss, friend. Losing our loved ones at any age is painful and devastating. Please feel free to share more whenever you’re ready. Sending hugs & prayers your way.

[Matthew48]

Well, I understand your feelings. But we don't really choose at what age we die. Not everyone gets to live into their 70s, 80s, 90s ...it's a blessing to do so.

But look at it like this:  Even if your father had lived to be 80 or 90, he was still going to die one day. And you'd still feel just as bad. Losing a parent at 80 is just as sad as losing a parent at 50.  It might be slightly easier to accept the loss of a very old parent, but it's still the same kind of loss --age doesn't stop that. Do you understand what I'm saying? I see that your father won't see big moments in your family's lives from here on out, but losing a parent to old age wouldn't necessarily be the comfort you'd think it would be.

I am sorry to know that you are in such pain. We all are feeling severe pain on here. You're not alone.

[KayC]

On 9/16/2024 at 10:46 AM, Hugh Bathurst said:

He should have been in his 80s, 90s etc! Not 50s!

How I felt when my husband died, five days after he turned 51.