Why can't my wife just mind her own business ?

[vintagetriplex]

Me and my wife have been married for 15 years. We have two boys. One is 6 and one is 5. 

Recently, I've been thro some rough patches. Last year, my father died from cancer and early this year, my mother died from drug overdose. And  a long time friend of mine who is overseas but who was still in contact with me died from getting shot by some gangs. He was hospitalised but did not make it. It was brutal and harsh for me but because I have a wife and kids, I'm trying very hard to suck it up and put on a smile and I still provide and still try to perform my husband/dad duties. I still do everything I husband/father is supposed to do. I pay the bills, help with kids homework, do chores and home repairs if needed and help with grocery shopping. I mostly keep my mouth shut and do my to do list without asking questions and complaining because no matter what, as a husband and father, you suppose to suck it up and do what you have to do. But I do not have a good appetite. Most of the time I don't feel like eating when I'm home. I don't exercise but I lost alot of weight. Sometimes I go a day without eating and I don't sleep well either. I'm lucky it im able to fall asleep for 2 to 3 hours but when I do manage to sleep, I always have sleep paralysis. 

Recently, my wife confronted me saying that I don't look healthy at all and she notices how little I eat and she notices how tired I am. I argued with her telling her that there is nothing wrong with me and I'm doing great and I told her even if I wasn't doing that well, so what? My health issues are none of her business and she should stay out of it and should be happy I'm providing for her. She got offended over that and told me that what I said was really stupid and she was just worried about me but it doesn't feel like it. She is just criticizing my physical appearance or just wants to nag . I talked to my friends about that and agreed with me saying that my wife is annoying. Why can't she mind her own business? 

[KayC]

Wow.  My husband and I had a more caring relationship, he died 19 years ago Father's Day.  We talked about everything, we clicked and were on the same wavelength.  I was lucky, I sure miss him. 

Has it ever occurred to you that your wife CARES about you?  Write to Dear Abby, I'd love to hear what she says.

[vintagetriplex]

1 minute ago, KayC said:

Wow.  My husband and I had a more caring relationship, he died 19 years ago Father's Day.  We talked about everything, we clicked and were on the same wavelength.  I was lucky, I sure miss him. 

Has it ever occurred to you that your wife CARES about you?  Write to Dear Abby, I'd love to hear what she says.

Well I still provide for the household but she is very ungrateful. It doesn't quite feel like she has good intentions. 

[KayC]

Then TALK to her about it!  Get marital counseling, preferrably together but if she refuses, go alone.  Life is too short...