Angry at my wife

[Brazil Man]

I had two dreams where I was angry at my wife and arguing with her.When I waked up I felt remorse. Has anybody here had this kind of dream ?

[KayC]

A year after George died I finally got a dream he was in, I remember wondering where the hell he'd been all this time.  When I awoke I was mad at myself for wasting that precious time with him being angry!  I rarely have them.

[Roxeanne]

Brazil man in my dreams i am worried for him...i lose him all the time...i try to find him, i try to call him with cellular phones that fall apart...sometimes i'm angry at him! But i have no remorse 'cos i think dreams have to do something with us...not with them! So take it easy...! Perhaps you express your anger at being left behind...

[widower2]

On 7/7/2024 at 12:31 PM, Brazil Man said:

I had two dreams where I was angry at my wife and arguing with her.When I waked up I felt remorse. Has anybody here had this kind of dream ?

No but it's certainly understandable. To feel anger at our lost loved ones is an easy target for remorse and guilt, as if we didn't have enough reason already. 

[KayC]

And we shouldn't judge ourselves for experiencing something we can't help like anger.  We're angry they're gone, it need have no rhyme or reason.  We know they didn't ask for it, not even those that commit suicide, they wanted out of circumstances, weren't thinking of all it would do to those that loved them.

[Bou]

On 7/7/2024 at 12:31 PM, Brazil Man said:

I had two dreams where I was angry at my wife and arguing with her.When I waked up I felt remorse. Has anybody here had this kind of dream ?

Angry for all the silly arguments we had when he was here.  None of them matter now.  Has helped me to grow in relationships with others of what is important and what is not and realizing life is too short to waste it on that nonsense, and petty bickering.    I am not saying to not stand up for yourself when needed.  but some stuff is just silly in the grand scheme of it all.  I try to be quick to forgive and try harder to see where someone else is coming from.

We did not have big arguments or fights just for the record. We got along and had a great life together.   Mostly I would pull a fit over something that really doesn't matter much then or now....LOL