Grieving after 5 years

[kac71]

I lost my mom may 13th 2019 and I am still grieving her. Yesterday was the 5 year anniversary her death and i cannot get over losing her.  This has changed me and I'm not the happy person I used to be.  I've gained alot of weight, I'm depressed, I get anxiety.   I miss her so much.  

[KayC]

I am so sorry for your loss.  I felt much the same when I lost my husband all too young. It changes our lives.
Parent Loss: Continuing Their Song

 

 

[lilstarsmum]

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss, friend. My heart goes out to you at this time. Losing a special person is very hard, and the impact of such a loss is deep. It’s important to let yourself go through the process and give yourself as much time as you need. I lost my dad 7yrs ago and it still hurts. I’d suggest that you talk to a grief counselor. You might want to check out the book: When You Lose Someone You Love by Richard Exley. Please take good care of yourself, friend. Sending hugs & prayers your way.

[kac71]

Thank you so much.  

[Rhys Kiaaina]

kac71, 

So sorry for your loss. I was reading another post from another woman who lost her mother. I am in the Los Angeles area and am a Grief Recovery Specialist and have worked through grief on different levels in my own life. I work with people who have gone through loss. We're certainly taught to acquire things in life but don't really know what to do when we lose them. Grief is perhaps 1 of the most misunderstood topics and something we will all feel at many different time in our lives. Thank you for sharing your heart and being vulnerable in the forum. If you are in need of added support and encouragement, email me at rhys@peacewithrhys.com. I'll do whatever I can to help.  Aloha. Rhys

[Juliette]

I lost my mom 3 years and 3 months ago. I've tried to move in and be strong but deep down it's killing me. My dad's remarried and happy again but I'm not fully happy. I've been strong for so long and now I feel like my walls are about to crumble. I just hope it gets better and not worse.

It's been tough carrying on these years because she was my everything. She was the best person in the world and in my life. I just wish she could stay with me a little longer. I love and miss her everyday ❤️❤️

[KayC]

Your dad is remarried within three months?  That seems pretty quick.  I applaud you for trying to remain positive about it for him though.

You will always miss your mom.  It's been 19 years this last week since my husband died and I will always miss him.

My heart goes out to you.

Parent Loss: Continuing Their Song

[Rhys Kiaaina]

On 6/25/2024 at 12:35 PM, Juliette said:

I lost my mom 3 years and 3 months ago. I've tried to move in and be strong but deep down it's killing me. My dad's remarried and happy again but I'm not fully happy. I've been strong for so long and now I feel like my walls are about to crumble. I just hope it gets better and not worse.

It's been tough carrying on these years because she was my everything. She was the best person in the world and in my life. I just wish she could stay with me a little longer. I love and miss her everyday ❤️❤️

Aloha Juliette, so sorry for your loss. Grief is a rough thing to navigate especially after losing your mother. Look at my bio and if you'd like more support, please email me at rhys@peacewithrhys.com. I am a Grief Recovery Specialist and you can recover from loss that leads to joy again. You don't have to go through life living in the past. There are no quick fixes but you can recover with the right map, guide, and tools with a little encouragement.

Here are 3 reasons why you may want to see a Grief Recovery Coach or Specialist. Consider this...

1. Your heart matters. You are not broken, your heart is. If a child broke their arm, what would you do?  You would get them to a doctor and get them help. For some reason, when we experience a broken heart, we have been taught to stuff our emotions and just move on in life. But we don’t move on, we live with a broken heart.

2. Your feelings matter. Fred Roger’s from the 4-time Emmy award-winning show, Mister Roger’s Neighborhood, once said, “Whatever is mentionable can be manageable” when talking to children about their feelings. You were made to feel many different emotions because feelings are part of being human. The more we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. It’s difficult to manage something we don’t acknowledge.

3. Your life matters. There is only 1 of you in this world. You are special, unique, and gifted. Why let grief weigh you down? Only you know your pain. Only you know your grief. Only you have the power to process your grief, learn to recover, and discover new life.

[holyboiledcabbages]

Sorry to hear about your loss, i lost my mom to cancer in November 2019 when i was 16-17 yrs old, no matter how much i tried to be mentally healthy, i feel it still permanently affected my stress response system and my general ability to stay determined about something. Im stuck and don't want to make things worse for myself, so im just staying stuck to being slightly dysfunctional like this. I gained weight by eating a lot in first few months, coupled with start of covid lockdown my weight increased but then got it back to normal in college, career wise im so stuck i have a terrible gpa and only job i might realistically get are shitty ones

[Juliette]

We'll definitely get through this. We are stronger than we think or know. We'll be fine. Sending you bear hugs and kisses🤗🤗🤗