Struggling

[Tracy G]

My Dad died 6 years ago August 10th this year, then 7 weeks to the day later my Gram died.  Then December 1, 2022 my Mom died.  I was my parents caregiver and I miss them so much.  My boys are all grown living in Az.  So I am all alone now.  I am really struggling with depression.  Does anyone know of any grief support groups in the Carol stream area?

[Traz]

Hi Tracy,

I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time and my heart goes out to you for your losses. I'm from Canada, so I don't know your area for grief counselling - but we share a few things in common. Both of my parents and brother passed, the most recent being my mom, just before Covid hit. I too was her caregiver and found myself lost after that 'role' ended. It's such a difficult transition - grieving the loss but also finding yourself again. 

Having our kids not near us is so hard too. My daughter moved thousands of miles away recently and I've been grieving over that as well.

Have you ever considered moving closer to where your sons live? I know that's a huge life change and a lot to consider and of course I have no idea of your situation.  When you said you are all alone, do you have any extended family at all? Siblings? Close friends? 

We all need these support systems and no wonder you are feeling depressed if you are alone. I would talk to your doctor if the depression deepens. I found medication helpful, but I realize it's a personal choice. It is going to take time to grieve all of these losses and find yourself again. It will be 5 years for me and it has come in baby steps. The important thing is staying connected with people. Joining some type of group, or class or hobby helps you feel alive again, have a purpose.. when you are ready to take that step of course. 

It hasn't been very long since your mom passed so give yourself more time. I am sending a virtual hug 💗

[Yes2day]

The loss of family effects me on every holiday I miss them because we shared lots of things including g holiday meals together and talked to that person a lot I guess now it's just a way to honor that person by thinking on them while you make any food. 

[lilstarsmum]

I’m so sorry to hear about your losses, friend. My heart goes out to you. Losing special people in our lives is very hard, and the impact of such a loss is deep. The sorrow can affect us in many ways. It’s important to let yourself go through the process and give yourself as much time as you need. I lost my dad 7yrs ago, and it still hurts. While I’m not sure of the support group, I’d suggest that you check out the book: 5 Keys for Dealing with Depression by Dr. Gregory Jantz. I know it’s not easy but stay strong. Sending hugs & prayers your way.