Mother-in-law just passed. Advice on balancing grieving and support for spouse

[Hudson4585]

 

I am not sure if this is the best place or section for this question.

My mother-in-law has passed away suddenly just this last Sunday. In the 15 years I have known her she has become like a second mother to me, always super supportive, and has been a huge part of ours and our kids lives. My wife is devastated, and I know I need to be there for her and to be strong.

How do I manage both when I an just as blindsided and grieving as well. I know what I feel so she has to feel much worse being her blood mother, and part of me feels like I would be acting selfishly if I am not able to be there for her as I should.

I guess I am just curious if anyone else that has been in this situation or just might have some insight as advice. I appreciate it in advance.

[KayC]

Try to share in the experience with your wife, hold her...my MIL was the mom I always wanted.  When she died I remember us sharing in  it.